My very smart, strong willed daughter is fully potty trained when it comes to pee, even during naps and overnight, but will NOT poop on the toilet. I have tried EVERYTHING... stickers, gifts, taking away "four year old" toys and acitivities b/c she is not acting like a four year old by using pullups, cutting a hole in the pull up, hanging out with other little girls who go on the potty, making her clean herself up, etc. Last week, she accidentally let a little poop slip out of her while she was peeing and was so excited about it! I, too, was excited and asked her to do it again and she did! It was great! She pooped all day the next day, little bits here and there and everything was so great we took her to a special dinner at her favorite place (a few months ago we told her that only four year olds who pooped on the potty were allowed to play there) and when we got home she said "I'm not going to poop on th epotty anymore. I'm scared" and she hasnt done it since. I told her the pullups were gone and she has not pooped since Monday, refusing to go in the toilet, saying she is scared and it wont come out. What am I supposed to do here?!?!?! I am at my wits end and my almost three year old son is now acting scared of the toilet while I am trying to potty train him.
Should I have her see someone about this? I know that my frustration is not helping, but its very hard for me to hide it or control it. I dont want to make the situation any worse than it is, but I feel like I am. My husband is so much more patient than I when it comes to this, but he works all the time and I am home with the kids everyday. She is not in preschool and could care less what other kids are doing. When she sits on the toilet, its like she convinces herself that she cant do it. She works it up so much in her head that she almost freaks out... I have no idea how to help her become less anxious about this.