Yes i agree, psychiatrist.... I have 2 boys... i think u r on the right track w/ oppositional defiance disorder. My boys are ADHD & both have ODD. unfortunately we had to do meds. My youngest who is 6 now,but was 3 1/2 when i started meds. for him it was a matter of life or death. so hyper & crazy things were happening. broken femur at 2 1/2 & almost hit by a car for dashing into parking lot. i was a prisoner in our home. which is not good for him or me, but think of what it must b like for him inside his head all the time. I had to look at it as if i were him & I had to think about how unhappy he must feel. My older son takes meds too. 4 1/2 yrs between them. started meds at same time & my younger son ison a higher dose then my older son,because he is so hyper. go go go. No fear, no pain,(spanking) taking fun things away. you know what i am talking about. I dont know what state u r in,but ask his therapist if they know of a psychiatrist that specializes in ADHD & call. A book I like to use is"The power of a positive Mom" Helps me say no or maybe later in a nice yes kinda way. great book. just use what info u need.
Hope I helped u. I have been there & still visit it from time to time...
PARSLEY424
That degree of disorganized behavior invites pharamcological treatment, even at his young age. You should have him evaluated by a child psychiatrist and see what recommendations are forthcoming. Counseling (i.e., face-to-face talk/play session with him) will do no good.