I am a stepmother to a 6 year old girl and an 8 year old boy. The girl has an issue with sneaking into our room at night, asking Daddy to come back into her room for "one more hug and kiss", and has now started with crying when she thinks she's in trouble (ex: we asked her to wring out her own hair the other night because we were having a discussion, and a few minutes later the 8 year old said she was crying. When I went into the bathroom, she was laying face down on the bathtub floor, crying into her arms. When i asked what was wrong (( 3 times)), she said that i asked her to dry her own hair and she couldn't do it.) Any time I ask her what is wrong, she won't answer until I ask 3-5 times.
Her father was an anxious child, and I've started to see signs of ADHD in her as well. Her Dad and brother are both medicated for this.
His ex wife had just finished court ordered alcohol treatment for parents (diversion), and until recently, the children didn't even get bathed there because she did not pay her bills, and therefore had no hot water. I feel like the children are living normal at our house, and in poverty at their mother's. She is still drinking when the kids are there, and I don't know if it's her house or mine that the little one is stressed about. Help!!