I have a 22 month old. She can recognize her letters and her numbers, she can count to 20 and we are working on her colors. She laughs, smiles, plays with other children and is such a loving and caring child. She doesn't have one specific favorite toy but she does have ones that she likes more than others. To me this all sounds perfect but everyone keeps telling me there is a problem. She takes a long time to warm up to adults. The situations that concern me are when we are in large groups, she's very into the children but gets very nervous and cries if an adult pays attention to her and tries to engage. She can usually handle the girls but if her uncles come and say HI sweetie how are you? It's a toss up sometimes she's fine and sometimes she will look at me in sheer fright and cry. We were teaching her to use her fork a few months back and she is amazing with it and we were showing that off to my mother (whom she is with every day) and when she looked up at nana with a huge appreciative smile because she stuck the chicken with her fork and ate it, we all clapped it wasn't even a loud clap but she looked around at us and started to cry and just wanted me to pick her up. A few weeks ago we went to a friends other kids were there and a lot of adults she doesn't know. She was fine with most of the people but there was this one friend of ours where if he even looked at her she would begin to cry in sheer fright. I sat next to him and explained to her who he was after a while she could cope with him being there and even brought him a toy but was very aprehensive about it, as if he made any sudden movement she was ready to run to mom. A few months back we had all the grand children at my parents house and my mother wanted a picture of all of them In this situation she only makes it about 2 seconds before she started screaming Is it possible for her to have some kind of social disorder with adults. She seems to be a healthy active child in every other way.