Cousins and schooling?

[KayHh]

I realise most of you are from the opposite side of the world (I am here in New Zealand) our schooling is very different but advice is advice no matter where it comes from.
The cousin spends a lot of time on computers and video game's this is a meothod his parents have taught him to keep him quite and still. I believe this has effected his social skills in which has made him socially challenged when he is not on the computer or in front of the xbox he is very aggrissive and tends to pick fights with his younger sibling or anyone around, he finds it hard being away from his mother and sister and is often bullied.
The cousin has been at a play centre with another cousin on his fathers side - He depeneded on this child for comfort, for friendship for help and when this other child was not at preschool the cousin was often sent home from preschool for one reason or another! The cousin was often bullied at preschool for what reasons Im unsure but the other child was often having to stick up for him and from my understanding from this childs mother this effected the childs relationship with his other friends which impacted on the parents of both children causing much stress and unwanted family fudes! I have had my daughter enrolled at a school since she was 9 months of age I have many reasons as to why i want my daughter at this school, this cousin was always going to another school up untill 2 months ago when he was enrolled and accepted into this same school I will have my daughter at. With advice from a few different sorces I am told not to have the two at the same school but what has me in a hard place is I do not want to have to pull my daughter out of this school, i have many reasons as to why she will attended this school but my sister in law has my nephew at this school because it is close to her which might i add is a half hour plus drive from where she lives when there is two other one five mins down the road!
This is touchy so advice is much appricated.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Try to maintain your focus on your child and what is best for her, regardless of what the others do.

[KayHh]

Sorry before posting that I should have added:
My sister in law has pulled her son out of this other school due to another cousin being in the same school she had her concerns but then puts me in the same situation and gives me the same concerns.
Also this school was not an independant choice, my partner has told me his mother has told her to enrol her son into this school as I have done my home work on the school so it must be good and it will save her from looking at other options! Can you see why Im a little annoyed etc?!

[KayHh]

Yes your very right and I do believe in each to there own!
I haven't heard one positive thing about cousins being at the same school and this is what brings me to have so many concerns as to the children being at the same school. I guess all I am looking for is some reassurance.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

I do not see any reason from your description of the situation that would indicate you should change anything about your child's school arrangement. The decision the cousin's mother makes is independent of your decision. And the cousin's mother is of course free to make whatever decison she wants, regardless of how close the school is to their home. In other words, she does not have to explain herself, just as you don't have to explain yourself.