I am divorced with a 9 year old girl from another marriage, a 4 year old son from a current marriage and a part time 8 year old step daughter. My ex-husband and I have opposing views on parenting. My daughter has been in counseling off and on since the age of 5 for displaying "concerning" behaviors that may/may not be related to the divorce. We were never able to find out as she does not talk. We have seen issues such as anxiety, depression, over eating, self mutilation, aggression toward animals, dishonesty, extreme reaction to stimulous (pain - ie. I can't brush her hair for her). I have tried to get her help and I keep runnign into brick walls. This morning my husband's ex called to tell us that my daughter wrote on the back of her step sister's journal "Things we are going to steal" and then listed items such as a laptop, cell phone, make up, money and pills. When we went into her room to find my daughter's journal, there were writings about being in love with a boy in school (who is not so wonderful) and how she loves him, wants to kiss him, pictures of them face to face with their tongues out. I am so alarmed that I am not sure of what my next step should be. It's like she has a double life. I have tried to get her in to a psychiatrist for some time now and have not been able to - the ones I have called from my health plan don't call back. What should I do and where do I go for help? My ex husband says I amke too much of a big deal and he's sure this will pass.