My 6 year old has just started having tantrums. She gets very angry when she doesn't get her way, she will at times slap herself in the head and clench her teeth, and scream....like she doesn't know what else to do. I sometimes lose my cool and end up screaming at here, and have to apologize later. Time out does seem to help...until the next episode. She just got in trouble at daycare for showing her underware by lifting up her dress. When I tried to talk to her she became hysterical sobbing, saying how much she hates herself, and that she is so stupid. She had the look in her eyes like she was absolutely devastated that she had disappointed me. She even said that she wanted to kill her self by stabbing a knife in her. It broke my heart...I could not believe that my 6 year old had such feelings. When She calmed and I talked to her about it, she said that when she looks in the mirror she thinks she is ugly. She doesn't feel happy. I don't know what to do. I can't ignore the tantrums, but how do I help her feel more self worth when I have to dicipline? My husband and I had some fighting and domestic violence issues a couple years back, and he has been in jail for a year now...and My daughter expresses how much she misses him??? I can't imagine that saying she wants to hurt herself is any way normal for this age or type of tantrum??? What do I need to do...Is it something that a different approach on discipline or my way of connecting to her can fix, or does she need therapy? I want her to feel close to me, but I feel like the harder I try the further away she is moving.