I'm not sure where to begin because things are bad, our family is in trouble! I will try to hit the most important issues. I married my second husband four years ago. I have two daughters, he has two sons. His youngest son who is 9 now, has problems. Right from the start I knew his behavior was not age appropriate. He was 5 and had no idea of any type of education, not even abc's. I got him in a preschool program. He lies about everything. He crys for no reason. He is violent to my daughter who is smaller them him. He defies anything you tell him. He doesn't understand personal hygiene, personal space, or social behavior. I have taking him to numerous counselors in search of the problem, because my husband refuses to deal with it. All of them agree there is at least a 2 year delay in his behavior. He flunked kindergarten. He will be 10 in Oct. he is going into the third grade. The school was in the process of testing him for learning disabilities and we moved to be closer to husbands job. We also had lived apart for over a year, because I became phyiscally ill due to all the stress. I agreed to try again because my husband has faced there is a problem, but he won't take any action. The other kids don't want him around, they are so angry. I am angry! Please help with any advice. I am ready to leave because we are continuing the same cycle as before and everyone was miserable. None of the kids think we will make it, and his oldest son wants to live with me if I leave. I feel like a fool for giving up everything (my church, my family, my girls school )and moving for this. I feel like I have made a mistake.