We are struggling with ODD in our 17 year old daughter. The constant struggle with her behavior toward us, her parents has us both worn out. She seems to be a salmon swimming upstream; always the opposite of us or the norm,wants our constant attention, always interrupts us when we are speaking to others. She is extremely bright. She has a small circle of friends because she is very opinionated, and people get tired of her after a while. She procrastinates with her school work. Does homework and never turns it in, gets extensions from teachers. They are so tired of her and her excuses. Because she has a hard time concentrating at school we thought she might have some ADD characteristics. She was on Aderall (made her psychotic) for about 3-4 months, and just tried Concerta (she was sensitive, agitated) so we are very hesitant to try any more meds. She has very poor executive skills which affect her schoolwork and family, her room is a disaster, and when cleaned is a mess within hours. It is so cluttered that sometimes you cannot even walk in the door. She twists words to suit her purpose. Most of her anger is pointed toward me, because I tend to be the disciplinarian in the family. My husband and I did a total role reversal and then all of her anger was directed toward him. She expects to be treated on the same level as an adult. She has no respect for me. Calls me names, like "liar", "*****", tells me to "die"...etc. She is rude to me in front of teachers, counselors etc