BPD mother and baby

[laylaloo]

hi my im 22 years old and have a new baby girl named Layla. she means the world to me. I love her more than life itself. recently i have been diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder after a hospital stay. I am feeling very down and missing my baby alot im always anxious and i always feel very self conscious, i put myself down alot and think everyone is better than me. im afraid ill be a bad mum to my  baby. so im staying away for a few days. can anyone tell me if i can be a good mum for my baby with this condition? or should i stay away? thank you

[Jaquta]

Absolutely you can be a good mother!!

I think Dr Grossbart has given you some excellent advice.

I think you should get yourself into good therapy.

Don't let your fears control you and you'll be a great parent.

Good luck.

J

[Ted A Grossbart, Ph.D.]

Absolutely spend as much time with her as you can.  Have some back-up caretakers so you can get a break when you need it. Know when you are having a bad time and let them take her for a while.   Get some good experienced parents (quite possibly not your own) to be an informal advisory board on how to handle tough situations.

Borderline is a very tricky diagnosis, don't assume it is correct or that even if parts fit that that means it all fits.  Google around and form your own opinion.

Get the best treatment you can,  your problems are very treatable if you stick with it.

tg