why was he around "friends" like that? Think which came first the chicken or the egg. Just a thought.
JayeJae,
My name is Marcus and I just joined this service recently. I want to respond to the PTSD issue as it nearly killed me and I have some advice that may be helpful. You're son may never lose the graphic memories but he can learn to manage the physical and emotional reactions. I suffered from a series of post-trauma incidents related to a brothers suicide (which I viewed the results of) and a series of incidents over two decades as a peace officer. I was "tough" and needed no outside help. I turned to alcohol and was eventually forced into treatment through my "allergy". I've been sober ever since but it did end my career. Over the past two years I've had to re-examine the past traumas and aggressively pursue the little boogers.
There are several resources that are free and some take a few bucks. I'm a real advocate of counseling as your son is experiencing "normal human reations to a highly abnormal event. In other words, the emotions and intrusive thoughts are new and frightening. I suggest both of you aggressively go after the fear...researching, discussing, and qualifing the new, strange feelings. And remember, this is very hard on you too!.
I studied several articles by nationally known Jeffery Mitchell who specializes in public safety PTSD but I believe it applies to more individuals outside of the ranks. I learned about arousal disorder, sleep disturbances, and the true definition of a flash back (it ain't as glamorous as hollywood has depicted). There is also a newer therapy that uses stimulation on the eyes to interupt the memories (I have not ruled this out).
I wish you luck and feel free to email me directly ***@****
JayeJae, I'm so glad to hear that your son is doing so much better. There are so many people who have gone through tragedies like your son's who have not had loved ones such as he does to help him - or force him - to get the help he needs. Being 24, I know the pains and sometimes embarassments of admitting to yourself that you need psychiatric help. But I also have a loving family that has helped me through it. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
It sounds like he is over it and on his way in a very healthy way. It also sounds like if the nightmares do start again, he will tell you, or go back to the therapist...that is your insurance policy. The only time he would be more vulnerable is when things are going bad for him in life...that's when a slight reoccurance could happen, and that's when you might be on more alert.