Hello. I am a 33 year old married mother of 3. My question is in regards to dealing with grief. I don't think that during my childhood, I acquired the correct skills in dealing with grief. I hold onto grief, dissappointment and sorrow until I can't anymore, and then I end up basically exploding with emotion--crying and being depressed for periods of time. I really don't want to take any medication. I have small children and I want them to learn to deal with their emotions properly as well. I am fearful that I will just pass my bad behavior onto them. My most current ordeal is that last year my husband had an affair. I cannot move on. I try very hard, but my mind keeps going back to it. I keep having various thoughts and feelings about it. We went to marriage counseling for a time after it happened, but could not continue due to finanical constraints. We are working on our marriage every day and I am positive about the direction it is taking. But, I am so upset, dissappointed and grief-stricken over the loss of trust. I just don't know what to do. How can I be well? How can I live and be happy again?
Thanks