For the past two years, my 22 year old son has made goals for himself, worked very hard to achieve them, then at the last minute does something to sabotage and destroy his chances of reaching the goal. He will then start over again to reach the goal, then sabotage his chances of reachaing it again.
As a small child, I saw him do similar things-pull his sled to the top of a steep hill after sledding down, then just as he got to the top, let it go sliding back down the hill again. Another time, after picking up nearly all his Tinkertoys and putting them in the can, he knocked the can over spilling them all out again and having to pick them up all over. He always seemed to choose doing things the hard way, too, arguing and fighting to have to do things he was asked to do.
This behavior seemed to subside for a number of years, seeming to go away entirely until the time for him to go to college when it began again. This behavior worries me. He has trouble taking responsibility for himself and his actions, blaming is failures on others. Is there a name for this behavior? Is it treatable? He is a sensitive, sweet, friendly young man but always seems to be punishing himself and making life very hard for himself. Any insight you can give would be appreciated. I am encouraging him to get counseling, which I hope he will do. Thanks so much for you time.