I know this might sound silly but

[Tribute53900]

My folks have been divorced for 23 years however both remarried, I'm happy for them etc. I've dealt with the whole thing fine. Ugly divorce it was but they were better off parting ways.

Anywho, flash forward to present. 2 years ago I got a DUI.  (I know stupid mistake, won't do it again, whole ordeal sucked) but while I was on probabtion, from January of last year until August, I kept getting stopped left and right by cops. And I'm not one to speed or anything. Always been a good driver. It was annoying!! They had the dumbest excuses for stopping me. But never got a ticket from it. I was in a parking lot once, and got harassed by one.

But trying to get to point, with all that, I strongly belived the judge who sentenced me was out to get me. I think she conspired with police to try to violate my probation and put me in jail for a month. Told my mother all this of how I don't many people including cops and judges. She thinks why I feel this way was because of the divorce.

How would my parents divorce create these thoughts on me?

Sorry the rant is long!!!!

[AnnieBrooke]

Another possibility is that something about your car or your behavior attracts the attention of the police more than average.  For example, I've heard men in red sports cars get more tickets than other men, not because they are worse drivers but because the police notice them more.  Also, people who notice the police and act nervous around them attract their attention.

I don't think unfinished business over your parents' divorce would have caused you to develop a conspiracy theory about a judge colluding with the police.  For one thing, you sound like you have processed their divorce for what it was.  Also, in my experience of my parents' divorce, my grief centered around the feeling of loss of the nuclear family, not fear of the police.  (I would have been more likely to grieve over the lost family home and good times, and have sad dreams about it.)  What might have given a paranoia of the police, however, is having been arrested for DUI.  An arrest can be really shocking at a very basic level -- maybe you developed this paranoia on your own account, not on your parents' account.  In short, your mom is kind of telling you that she thinks her life is the center of your world, but really, you have plenty of your own life to be the center of your own world.

[specialmom]

Hm.  I guess I don't personally see the correlation.  I think divorce can cause some inner turmoil and distrust but can't see why that would make you dislike police, etc.  I think getting pulled over for bogus things would do that though!!  

My parents divorced when I was in college Freshman year.  It was hard.  I think almost harder than when it happens when kids are younger because it felt like my home was truly ripped apart.  I found myself in the middle of things sometimes.  I hated it.  Did it affect me?  Probably.  I'm not sure how though.  

Fear of authority figures, anger with authority figures, etc. is nothing new and I'm sure many people who suffer this are from intact parental homes.  :>)  good luck

[Emetamar]

Were the police involved in your parents divorce? Were you old enough to remember? If they weren't, maybe your mother is saying how she feels. If you were very young, maybe there are details you don't recall?  Or maybe your mom blames the divorce for everything, in your life and even hers?!

As for the apparent harassment, the police might do that on their own, with no collusion with the judge, esp if you're a small area. Alternately, you may have been so careful after the arrest when driving that it drew the attention of the police. I've read that after car accidents, drivers become overly cautious, perhaps something similar happened to you?

I don't doubt you could've been deliberately harassed, btw.