Penile implants

[Lauk75]

Hi everyone,
I have been living with ED for several years now and tried everything but nothing has worked for me .
My last resort is surgery which I have declined today after asking to the hospital if they could possibly put me in touch  with a patient or two whose had this type of surgery to look and feel at the result and in a kind of off tone , they said that that wouldn’t be possible.
I don’t feel comfortable on having such an invasive surgery if I can’t see and feel what I’m really going to get .
Why such a tabu’?
The doctor asked me if I would show my penile implant to another guy and I answered of course I would , if that is going to help someone else on making such a big decision.
Why would I Hide to someone in the same situation as mine if I was happy with the result of my surgery?
Also , It’s not just the aesthetic side of it but the mental and emotional .
Is this surgery a positive outcome for everyone living with ED?
I’m a gay man of 47 living in
London and would love to hear other opinions .
Thank you

[Lauk75]

Hello Guitar Rox,
Thank you very much for your opinion but that is not going to help me at all., What you see online is never what in reality you are going to get.
Clearly there must be a reason on as to why there is so much hiding behind it.
Doctors could at list ask patients if they willingly be happy to show and share the results of their surgery .
Women do that all the time with their breasts !

[GuitarRox]

It's not my 'opinion' that it is unethical for a doctor to introduce you to another patient, it is likely law. I'll look it up for you as to what the privacy laws are in the UK. And no. women do not meet other women at a doctor's office that are his patients so that they can feel their breasts. That would be just as inappropriate. You're gonna have to make a friend with a penile implant and ask them directly. No credible physician would be a part of that.

[GuitarRox]

Yes, the UK holds it's doctors to the same standards of patient confidentiality. They can not share with a third party (you) the medical condition or record of another patient just as they an not share yours. Asking them to let you look at and touch their genitals is inappropriate. Hey, what if you hate it? You gonna tell them? What is in it for them? I'd have zero interest in allowing a stranger to feel me up to see if they like what I've got. Absolutely the same goes for either gender. One patient isn't called in to a doctor's office to allow a look see and feel. That's unheard of. So, you will be hard pressed to find anyone that shares your opinion on this. Just being direct because you seem to be having difficulty understanding this.   I get WHY you want to but confidentiality is a real thing in the medical world.

[GuitarRox]

Well, for privacy sake, they could NEVER tell you any of their patients names or situation. Privacy is very important in health care and to ask a physician to set you with that is inappropriate. It really is. It's not tabu but you put him in as the middle man asking him to get another one of his patients in a position to allow you to examine and feel their genital? Ya, no. You'll have to find your own person to do this with. I'd wonder about any doctor that did get involved in that. He owes EACH of his patients utter and total confidentiality. It's a law in the United States (would imagine it is in the UK too).

[GuitarRox]

No one cares if you are gay. No one cares if you touch a penis. But to ask a doctor to set it up for you with one of their patients would be unethical for him to do so. That's not personal to you or a man touching another man or 'tabu' . . . it's ethics in privacy of medical care.

[GuitarRox]

There is info online. https://london-andrology.co.uk/uro-genital-health/penile-implant/how-will-my-penis-look-feel-and-function-after-a-penile-implant/