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erection problem
i have a serious problem of pennis erection.
When i have oral sex like kissing smooching i get an erection but by the time i try to put the pennis in the vagina of my girlfriend i lose erection.
i also have a habit of holding the pennis in my hane when i watch blue films
is this a serious problem
When i have oral sex like kissing smooching i get an erection but by the time i try to put the pennis in the vagina of my girlfriend i lose erection.
i also have a habit of holding the pennis in my hane when i watch blue films
is this a serious problem
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
I believe you have two different concerns. I'm assuming you're saying that while you're kissing and touching your girlfriend, you're turned on, and your penis is erect; however, once you decide to have penis-vagina (p-v) sex, your erection goes away and doesn't return.
Our society does a terrible disservice to men by raising them to think that their penis has to be 10 inches long, hard as a rock and last all night. It’s no wonder that many men feel insecure about their sexuality. Great sex involves your whole body; in fact, having great, mutually satisfying sex is usually quite the opposite of what you see in those performance-oriented sex videos.
The more you think of sex as being about performance, the more worries you'll have. If you're stressed, you'll probably worry even more. And this can be a vicious circle. For most of us, sex is about fun and pleasure. If you think of it as performance, or a “job,” you’ll set yourself for a stressful experience. Remember: Performance can be the enemy of pleasure and fun.
Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure.
Two other reasons why you might not be having erections are that you’re bored with your current partner or the sexual activities you’re doing together, or that there are some conflicts in the relationship and you’re feeling anxious or angry.
It sounds to me like you're so worried about erections that you've stressed yourself, and now your penis isn't cooperating. In other words, you've probably created this situation. The more you worry, the less it will cooperate. You need to change your attitudes about sex and relax.
You also mention that you touch your penis while watching sexual material. So what? This isn't in any way harmful, and, in fact, it's what most men do when they're feeling turned on. It doesn't affect your sexuality with your partner in any way unless you decide that you like your hand better than your partner. If so, find a new partner who turns you on, or decide you just want to be sexual with yourself. Whatever you decide, accept who you are and enjoy your sexuality. Dr. J
I believe you have two different concerns. I'm assuming you're saying that while you're kissing and touching your girlfriend, you're turned on, and your penis is erect; however, once you decide to have penis-vagina (p-v) sex, your erection goes away and doesn't return.
Our society does a terrible disservice to men by raising them to think that their penis has to be 10 inches long, hard as a rock and last all night. It’s no wonder that many men feel insecure about their sexuality. Great sex involves your whole body; in fact, having great, mutually satisfying sex is usually quite the opposite of what you see in those performance-oriented sex videos.
The more you think of sex as being about performance, the more worries you'll have. If you're stressed, you'll probably worry even more. And this can be a vicious circle. For most of us, sex is about fun and pleasure. If you think of it as performance, or a “job,” you’ll set yourself for a stressful experience. Remember: Performance can be the enemy of pleasure and fun.
Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure.
Two other reasons why you might not be having erections are that you’re bored with your current partner or the sexual activities you’re doing together, or that there are some conflicts in the relationship and you’re feeling anxious or angry.
It sounds to me like you're so worried about erections that you've stressed yourself, and now your penis isn't cooperating. In other words, you've probably created this situation. The more you worry, the less it will cooperate. You need to change your attitudes about sex and relax.
You also mention that you touch your penis while watching sexual material. So what? This isn't in any way harmful, and, in fact, it's what most men do when they're feeling turned on. It doesn't affect your sexuality with your partner in any way unless you decide that you like your hand better than your partner. If so, find a new partner who turns you on, or decide you just want to be sexual with yourself. Whatever you decide, accept who you are and enjoy your sexuality. Dr. J
How old are you trupti?
If you are under 35, then I'd suggest taking some basic health steps to help out with your penile functions.
Try changing up your Diet, Eating foods high in Vitamins, Zinc and Iron. Taking a multi vitamin a day will help.
Quit smoking if you do smoke.
Don't drink anything before intercourse.
If you are still having problems. Then there's still help out there.
I used this penile ring called the OQ Ring and it really helps me keep the erection. It's not constricting like the rubber ones and my GF loves it.
The key is being open with your partner!
Good luck.
.
If you are under 35, then I'd suggest taking some basic health steps to help out with your penile functions.
Try changing up your Diet, Eating foods high in Vitamins, Zinc and Iron. Taking a multi vitamin a day will help.
Quit smoking if you do smoke.
Don't drink anything before intercourse.
If you are still having problems. Then there's still help out there.
I used this penile ring called the OQ Ring and it really helps me keep the erection. It's not constricting like the rubber ones and my GF loves it.
The key is being open with your partner!
Good luck.
.
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