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Guilt is killing me
Doctor,
I had an affair and have ended it. I was with a heterosexual male three times andf it was unprotected vaginal sex. I tested at the hospital with a blood draw at 2 weeks and 5 weeks and both were negative. I then tested just short of 8 weeks, like 2 to three days short and it was negative. I also had a six week test that was negative, I know overtesting. I have come clean with my husband and I want to move on and put his behind me. I have read through many posts on here and I feel confident that I can quit testing,i just want to make sure. What do you think?
I had an affair and have ended it. I was with a heterosexual male three times andf it was unprotected vaginal sex. I tested at the hospital with a blood draw at 2 weeks and 5 weeks and both were negative. I then tested just short of 8 weeks, like 2 to three days short and it was negative. I also had a six week test that was negative, I know overtesting. I have come clean with my husband and I want to move on and put his behind me. I have read through many posts on here and I feel confident that I can quit testing,i just want to make sure. What do you think?
Thank you for all your help. It has eased my fears.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I can't say anything about pre-transplant treatment of bone grafts. The blood test screening is complete protection in itself. Infection can follow any surgical procedure, and the risk is somewhat higher when foreign bodies or tissues are implanted. It is never completely avoidable and generally doesn't mean anything special in terms of the immune system, contamination of the implant, etc.
That should end this thread. All is well.
That should end this thread. All is well.
Again, thank you. I have been reading about the bone grafts and you are right. It was just strange that he got an infection, but I am sure it happens. The bone graft that was used on him was sterilzed by the tutogen method. I actually think that, from what the articles say. "kill" the hiv virus. I would have to imagien after donors are screend and then the bone is cleaned, hiv would not survive. Is that pretty accurate?
I will move on with my life and not continue this rollercoaster of testing since I have had too many as it is. Have a nice weekend.
I will move on with my life and not continue this rollercoaster of testing since I have had too many as it is. Have a nice weekend.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
No distant online expert can guarantee someone isn't infected with something. But if I were in your situation, I would continue unprotected sex with my wife with no concerns for her health.
No worries about your husband's bone graft. This isn't my area of expertise, but to my knowledge there hasn't been a case of HIV or hepatitis B transmission by organ or tissue transplant (or blood transfusion) in the United States for over 20 years. The tests used to screen donors are that good.
Thanks for the thanks. Take care.
No worries about your husband's bone graft. This isn't my area of expertise, but to my knowledge there hasn't been a case of HIV or hepatitis B transmission by organ or tissue transplant (or blood transfusion) in the United States for over 20 years. The tests used to screen donors are that good.
Thanks for the thanks. Take care.
Dr.
You have helped. I just wrote guilt is killing me because I know in my heart that is why I have hiv on the brain.
I was tested twice for all other std's and assume that is enough also. I tested at 6 5 and 8 weeks for all of the ones you mentioned above.
I am assuming I can move on and have unprotected sex with my husband, correct? Thank you for all of your help.
This is a bit off subject, but I saw a past about this on the hiv forum(non expert) and wondered if you had any insight. My husband had implant surgery(dental) due to tooth issues. He had bone grafting done with a product called puros( cadaver bone.) This was doen by an oral surgeon. A week after extraction and bone graft he developed an infection which antibiotics cured. I am sure this can happen in dental extractions. My concern after reading the post is is he at risk of contracting hiv or hepatits from receiving bone grafting material from a cadaver? Should he be tested? I don't want to search the internet as you don't always get accurate info.
You have helped. I just wrote guilt is killing me because I know in my heart that is why I have hiv on the brain.
I was tested twice for all other std's and assume that is enough also. I tested at 6 5 and 8 weeks for all of the ones you mentioned above.
I am assuming I can move on and have unprotected sex with my husband, correct? Thank you for all of your help.
This is a bit off subject, but I saw a past about this on the hiv forum(non expert) and wondered if you had any insight. My husband had implant surgery(dental) due to tooth issues. He had bone grafting done with a product called puros( cadaver bone.) This was doen by an oral surgeon. A week after extraction and bone graft he developed an infection which antibiotics cured. I am sure this can happen in dental extractions. My concern after reading the post is is he at risk of contracting hiv or hepatits from receiving bone grafting material from a cadaver? Should he be tested? I don't want to search the internet as you don't always get accurate info.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the HIV forum. But reacting to the title you chose for your question ("Guilt is killing me") before reading anything else: You probably understand that this isn't a counseling site. All we can do is relate the facts and probabilities about HIV transmission and related issue.
Now I have read the rest. You are correct that you have been overtested. And indeed you can quit testing. It sounds like your affair partner was at no signficant risk of HIV, and undoubtedly you have seen other threads in which we said that the standard HIV tests are just about always positive by 6-8 weeks after infection, so your negative results are reliable. Two days short of 8 weeks makes no difference.
Bottom line: You were at low (if any) risk for HIV and the test results prove you weren't infected. But it would be a good idea for you to also be tested for other common STDs, if that hasn't been done -- i.e. syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia, and herpes if there is any reason to believe your affair partner might have had it.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Now I have read the rest. You are correct that you have been overtested. And indeed you can quit testing. It sounds like your affair partner was at no signficant risk of HIV, and undoubtedly you have seen other threads in which we said that the standard HIV tests are just about always positive by 6-8 weeks after infection, so your negative results are reliable. Two days short of 8 weeks makes no difference.
Bottom line: You were at low (if any) risk for HIV and the test results prove you weren't infected. But it would be a good idea for you to also be tested for other common STDs, if that hasn't been done -- i.e. syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia, and herpes if there is any reason to believe your affair partner might have had it.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
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