HIV Positive without any explanation or High risk activities

[AdviceNeeded89]

Hi, I was recently diagnosed as HIV positive and I have no idea how I was exposed. I’m a gay man in a monogamous relationship. After my diagnosis, he was tested and the result was negative. My last test was about 6 months before my diagnosis and was negative.
A few months ago while on vacation, my partner and I had protected sex with a guy who bottomed for both of us.  Condoms were worn the entire time and never broke.  About a month later I had an acupuncture treatment, which Is the only other potential exposure I can think of.
I’m being treated and my health and viral count are under control, but I can’t figure out how I was exposed. Everything I have read and every doctor I’ve spoken to cannot explain how this could have happened. Please help

[Sara_MHModerator]

We are sorry if you have received this diagnosis.  The methods of acquiring HIV are well known and no one here will possibly know more about your personal circumstances than you.  We are going to close this thread and encourage you to keep working with experts to understand your situation.  

We encourage discussion of how treatment is going, living with HIV on this forum and wish you the very best.  

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[mike_no]

Since you have access to leading doctors and researchers, it would be absolutely redundant to come to an online forum and look for answers.

We wish you good luck.

[mike_no]

Hi, welcome to our forum.

I am sorry to learn that you have tested positive. I would also want to tell you that with the advancement of biotechnology and medical science; being HIV positive is not the end of the world, it is absolutely manageable like any other chronic disease like diabetes. You should  take your ART medication diligently to achieve undetectable viral load, in such scenario you will be able to have unprotected sex with out transmitting the virus. Also, your partner has the option of PrEP, should you both decide to enjoy unprotected sex going further. We have a "Living with" forum here on this board, you can certainly access resources from there also you could communicate with members.

The only potential exposure is unprotected anal or vaginal sex or sharing needles with people who inject drugs or through blood transfusion and nothing else in your case. Therefore, you will have to figure what made you contract the virus.

If you need any further information on testing, you could feel free to write back or PM me. I will try and extend the best I can.

Good luck.

[AdviceNeeded89]

Thank you for your response. I’m already on ART and things are going okay. I have a great support system, but I still cannot explain how I was exposed. I haven’t had ANY unprotected sex, needle sharing, or any other normal exposure. I’m going crazy trying to explain this.

[mike_no]

The above listed are the only ways of HIV transmission.  It's scientific and there are no other possibilities whatsoever.

[AdviceNeeded89]

I understand the science and the conventional wisdom. HIV can be transmitted via body fluids.  However, I did not any obvious exposure like unprotected sex, IV drug use, etc. And somehow am now positive. Based on the conventional wisdom, this is impossible. Yet it happened.

I am blessed to have direct personal access to some of the leading doctors and researchers in this field, who agree this is unusual. I’m looking for people to share advice and guidance, not regurgitate incomplete facts.