I don't know what to think?!

[mm327]

I have no idea what to do with myself. I am so scared I have HIV or an STD. I had unprotected sex with a lot of people but in like a good suburban area. Although the area is nice there are some people that scare me that I have gotten HIV from someone. I had sex with someone that used heroine and I tried it once with the same needle. Not too shortly after that person had open, pus-like sores all over their body. I ignored it figuring it was from massive amounts of heroine. Could that be a reason why they developed that or is it related to HIV? It's been almost 2 years since and I'm with a steady partner as of now. Within those two years though I never got tested or anything. Recently in the past year I've had changes in my body. I have disturbing smelling and sometimes looking discharge and most recently right after sex. The swollen lymph glands under the arms thats your suppose to develop with HIV does that cause pain when you push on your armpit? I have noticed it gets really sore all the time and hurts when i push on it. I personally haven't developed any open sores at all. I noticed my gums are unhealthy and gross, but I have been smoking for at least 4 years and I'm scared it could be a symptom of HIV. I also get frequent sharp pains in my joints and hands. I recently went to Plan Parenthood to get tested for STDS and I was negative for gonorrhea and chlamydia but I am waiting for results for any other possible STD. I still haven't gotten tested for HIV but plan on within the next week. But, I am so so so frightened. I have led myself to believe I have HIV and I don't even know it yet. I've had sharp pains in my vagina before like a year ago, so bad I couldnt sleep but I never took care of my body. I drank alcohol everyday, all day for 3 months straight, barely drank any water and ate barely. I also used cocaine frequently during that time. I was given medicine for Bacterial Vaginitis when i went to the doctors and my symptoms are worse. I also had a fever too. My partner now has expressed before that he thought i gave him something but we ignored it. I have noticed that he has a cough and there is a certain part on the shaft of his penis that appears a little swollen and I have never seen it before ever. He feels like he has fevers all the time and he has a runny nose. Now when I ask him if he feels abnormal anywhere he tells me he is fine. I can't tell if he really is fine or if he is scared if he has something. Please can someone answer my questions, I dont know what to do.

[blueduy]

so how did it all go? I hope you're doing better!

[joggen]

My advice is for you and your partner to get tested together for HIV when you test next week so you both know your status. He should also test for STDs. This has nothing to do with your symptoms, which do not suggest HIV. It just makes sense for two people in a monogamous relationship to test together for HIV and common STDs, to alleviate the type of fears that both you and your partner have expressed.