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Blood on Condom and on public area
Hello Doctor - I recently I got tested for everything and came out clean. But, temptation got best out of me and I decided to see escort today. To cut long story short, she is 20 year old white American female and she has been in business since she was 16. It was expensive by appointment type of escort. I went to her hotel to see her. Before we proceed, I asked her whether she is clean and she said yes. We only had protected vaginal sex which lasted for like 10 minutes. No kissing or no oral. Lights were off during sex act but I can still see that condom was intact during session and it was slipped like 1 inches off the base of penis but everything else was covered.
After ejaculation, I took the condom off and then went to bathroom and turned the lights on. That's when I realized that most of outside of condom was covered with blood. I also realized there was one or two drop of blood over lower part of my stomach (due to missionary position, I guess). I freaked out and started inspecting my public area and penis. I started wiping it down with clean white towel and notice just a little bit of blood upon wiping (I guess it came from base of penis which was briefly unprotected during act). Then, I filled condom with water to make sure it wasn't broke and it wasn't broke. When I was about to discard water filled condom, it somehow touched top of my penis where opening is. I am uncircumcised BTW. Then, I washed off and left the hotel.
Do you think when I was about to throw the condom and outside of condom touched opening skin of my penis and it would have put me at risk. I am concerned about outside condom's blood/vaginal fluid touching opening skin of my penis. I am hopeful if she was infected was HIV, that HIV virus would have been dead by staying outside that long. I even stuck piece of paper inside of openings of my penis hole to make sure there was no blood in it.
What are your thoughts? Forget about incident and move on? OR something to be worried about?
After ejaculation, I took the condom off and then went to bathroom and turned the lights on. That's when I realized that most of outside of condom was covered with blood. I also realized there was one or two drop of blood over lower part of my stomach (due to missionary position, I guess). I freaked out and started inspecting my public area and penis. I started wiping it down with clean white towel and notice just a little bit of blood upon wiping (I guess it came from base of penis which was briefly unprotected during act). Then, I filled condom with water to make sure it wasn't broke and it wasn't broke. When I was about to discard water filled condom, it somehow touched top of my penis where opening is. I am uncircumcised BTW. Then, I washed off and left the hotel.
Do you think when I was about to throw the condom and outside of condom touched opening skin of my penis and it would have put me at risk. I am concerned about outside condom's blood/vaginal fluid touching opening skin of my penis. I am hopeful if she was infected was HIV, that HIV virus would have been dead by staying outside that long. I even stuck piece of paper inside of openings of my penis hole to make sure there was no blood in it.
What are your thoughts? Forget about incident and move on? OR something to be worried about?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
These comments do not change my opinion or advice.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum.
Blood on the outside of a condom, or on the skin, does not increase HIV transmisssion risk. Even without a condom, having sex during a woman's menstrual period does not increse the chance of HIV transmission. Vaginal fluids contain just as much HIV as blood does. All the details about washing etc make no difference one way or the other.
Equally important, HIV is rare in escorts (expensive sex workers by appointment, like your partner) -- so it is unlikely your partner has HIV. And if she had it, she would have told you; people generally don't lie about HIV status when asked directly. Anyway, it sounds like she has her customers use condoms, which should keep her risk low.
So my advice is exactly as you state yourself: forget the incident and move on. Of course, all people who are sexually active outside mutually monogamous relationships should be tested for HIV and other STDs from time to time, even if they consistently follow safe sex practices. So if you haven't been tested recently, this would be a good time, when it's on your mind. But not because of this particular exposure.
I hope these comments are helpful. Best wishes and stay safe.
HHH, MD
Blood on the outside of a condom, or on the skin, does not increase HIV transmisssion risk. Even without a condom, having sex during a woman's menstrual period does not increse the chance of HIV transmission. Vaginal fluids contain just as much HIV as blood does. All the details about washing etc make no difference one way or the other.
Equally important, HIV is rare in escorts (expensive sex workers by appointment, like your partner) -- so it is unlikely your partner has HIV. And if she had it, she would have told you; people generally don't lie about HIV status when asked directly. Anyway, it sounds like she has her customers use condoms, which should keep her risk low.
So my advice is exactly as you state yourself: forget the incident and move on. Of course, all people who are sexually active outside mutually monogamous relationships should be tested for HIV and other STDs from time to time, even if they consistently follow safe sex practices. So if you haven't been tested recently, this would be a good time, when it's on your mind. But not because of this particular exposure.
I hope these comments are helpful. Best wishes and stay safe.
HHH, MD
One last thing, I asked her whether she was on period. She said her period was over last week but it was some sort of birth control object stuck in her arm which makes her vagina release some blood.
One more thing, this morning I did trim my public area and lower stomach area. To my knowledge, none of those trimmed area were bleeding but would it change your opinion? Since, two to three drop of blood was spotted on my trimmed area of lower stomach. Just curious. Thanks
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