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Phew!
Thanks again- you are providing a wonderful service here, and it's appreciated.
(Also, apologies for the misspelling of your name in my previous post)
You're welcome.
Having HSV-2 (but not HSV-1) roughly doubles the risk of HIV if exposed. Double a very low risk still is very low. In your case, it should not be particularly worrisome if your odds were 1 in 500,000 instead of 1 in a million.
Dr. Hansfield, thank you SO much for your prompt and reassuring reply.
You are correct, I am female. I will definitely post my result next week to hopefully bring reassurance to others in my situation.
I just have one final question though- I just read in this forum that asymptomatic HSV infection can drive up the risk. Asymptomatic people obviously don't know that they have HSV, and as common as it is, that's just added one more element to my worry. What if one/both of us have asymptomatic HSV - how much would that increase the risk?
Thanks again, Doctor.
I missed your request for numerical odds you have HIV. Chance your partner has HIV, probably 1 in 1,000. Odds of transmission from a single episode of unprotected vaginal sex around 1 in 1,000. 0.001 x 0.001 = 0.000001, or 1 in a million. Actually lower than that because no ejaculation.
In general, I recommend against HIV testing at all on account of individual sexual events, except with known infected partners or other evidence of particularly high risk. The chance of infection is just too low to warrant the trouble. A smarter approach is for all nonmonogamous sexually active people to just plan on regular testing from time to time, like once a year. Assuming you haven't been tested in the past year, this is a good time, since it's on your mind. But not because of this particular event.
Welcome to the HIV forum.
You don't say your sex, but by implication you're female or you wouldn't have pointed out that your partner probably doesn't have sex with other men.
This is a very low risk event with respect to HIV, for 2 reasons. First, it is statistically very unlikely a partner like you describe has HIV ("an upper class white male", not an injection drug users, who doesn't have sex with men), assuming you are in the US or other industrialized country -- probably under one chance in 1,000.
Second, even if he had HIV, the risk of transmission is low. Unprotected vaginal sex carries an average transmission chance of once for every 1,000 encounters, which is equivalent to having sex with infected men once daily for over 2 years and maybe not being infected. And that's with ejaculation. And oral sex risk is on the order of 1 in 10,000. (These odds are why the large majority of persons who acquire HIV heterosexually are the regular partners of infected persons, and they typically only become infected months or years into the relationship. Catching HIV through one-off sexual events is rare.)
So you can definitely expect your HIV test to be negative, assuming this is your only risk. Feel free to return to post the result. But try not to lose sleep about it while you wait for the test.
I hope this helps. Best wishes---- HHH, MD