Very worried about possible HIV+ /are my symptoms ARS?

[Mikeellington]

I had protected sex with another man about 4 weeks ago. About 2 minutes of unprotected oral was performed on me (i also had a small abrasion on my foreskin that had a scab on it). Then i was the top and used a condom. When i took the condom off to finish the scab was pulled off and i touched my penis after touching the condom. About 3 days after the event i had very swollen and hard lymph nodes under my jaw on my neck. Two weeks after my collarbone nodes started to swell also. I have had no other symptoms now (4 weeks since) but my lymph nodes are still super swollen and hard. I had a duo test at 2 weeks which i know is super early and the negative result doesn't really mean anything. I did a home test at approx. 3 weeks which also came back negative, again too early to be conclusive. I just had blood taken for another duo test where i won't see results until next week, and i plan on testing at 6, and 12 weeks if this one is negative. I am very VERY worried that i have hiv, and at this point I'm just trying to accept that i have it. Please let me know if you think my risk was high enough that i contracted the virus on this encounter. I really don't know what I'm going to do if this result comes back positive.

Thanks

[AnxiousNoMore]

You had no HIV risk and a test will be a waste of time.   It is unlikely that you would be able without medical training to self diagnose lymph issues, so see doc if concerned. The fact that you are doing tests that you know are meaningless shows that you have a high anxiety level, so the first step to peace is to stop Googling for HIV symptoms cold turkey and to stop analyzing your body looking for symptoms.

HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make any of your encounter a risk for HIV.  No one in 40 years of HIV history got HIV from the situation you are concerned about so it is unlikely that it will happen in the next 40 of your lifetime either.

[Mikeellington]

I had my lymph nodes confirmed by a doctor, they are huge and rock hard. Thank you for your response though!