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Need Advice oral sex exposure/genital contact
About three months ago I had oral sex with a male of unknown status. He did oral on me as well as I did on him. Each time the oral lasted until I climaxed and he ejaculated in my mouth as well. When I was finish I got on top of him and our genitals touch to the point where the head of his penis touched my hole. He did not penetrate me but it was right there. I'm concerned that my secretions and if there was precum on his penis, was this a risk for exposure? Since there was no barrier between our genitals. Also if I was at risk by letting him cum in my mouth. My dental cavity is not the best. I have a few cavities, but I don't know if I had a sore or cut in my mouth at the time. Post that exposure I became really sick. I would say around 9 days after I started to get severe cramping in my lower abdomen. Down where my genital is. Aching in my legs, I became weak and just feeling bad, sweating at night, sore throat,I felt like I had flu symptoms except i didn't have a fever. I felt like I did but there was no temp. The acheness went from my legs to my arms and shoulders. Joints hurting. I felt just bad and back pain. I'm extremely nervous and scared. The cramping lasted for a month. I would say the other symptoms lasted for two to three weeks.
Thank you for your response. Yes, I did ask him about his status he sad "I love myself to much" I wouldn't do that. So I assumed he meant he was negative. I must add that I was extremely nauseous during that 3 weeks. Would this symptom change your opinion. No, I haven't tested yet, but plan to next week. I wanted to wait until enough time past where I would be sure that my test would be accurate. Yes that was the only exposure was the genital contact and we had oral sex twice with cum in mouth.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum.
We get many questions about HIV risks associated with genital apposition without penetration; and about "close" or "almost" penetration, either vaginal or anal. The answer is always the same: it is only true, insertive, penetrating anal or vaginal sex that risks HIV transmission; just getting sexual secretions on or near the genitals or anus is rarely sufficient for transmission. If there is any risk from exposures of the sort you describe, it is extremely low -- so low that most STD/HIV clinics have never seen an HIV infected patient whose only possible source was the kind of contacts you describe.
As for fellatio, there is slight risk for the oral partner, if the penile partner is infected -- but so low (1 chance in 10,000) that on average one would have to give BJs to infected partners once daily for 27 years before infection might be likely. Experts disagree whether the penile partner is at risk -- if so, it's in the range of 1 in 20,000 (55 years).
Your symptoms don't concern me at all -- they really don't even hint at HIV as the cause. However, they are pretty typical for the physical manifestatios of anxiety, stress, depression etc.
Most people in your situation would have been tested -- which I assume you haven't done since you don't mention it. That's the obvious answer. Since that's so readily available, I'm not going to speculate further with you about your exposure, symptoms, or the likelihood of infection. Feel free to report your test result when it has been done.
My final advice is that in the future you discuss HIV status with partners before having any sexual contact at all, even safe sex (which is what you had). Think how much less worried you would be if you knew your partner is HIV negative!
Anyway, stay mellow until you are tested. If this is your only potential risk for HIV, you can definitely expect a negative result.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
We get many questions about HIV risks associated with genital apposition without penetration; and about "close" or "almost" penetration, either vaginal or anal. The answer is always the same: it is only true, insertive, penetrating anal or vaginal sex that risks HIV transmission; just getting sexual secretions on or near the genitals or anus is rarely sufficient for transmission. If there is any risk from exposures of the sort you describe, it is extremely low -- so low that most STD/HIV clinics have never seen an HIV infected patient whose only possible source was the kind of contacts you describe.
As for fellatio, there is slight risk for the oral partner, if the penile partner is infected -- but so low (1 chance in 10,000) that on average one would have to give BJs to infected partners once daily for 27 years before infection might be likely. Experts disagree whether the penile partner is at risk -- if so, it's in the range of 1 in 20,000 (55 years).
Your symptoms don't concern me at all -- they really don't even hint at HIV as the cause. However, they are pretty typical for the physical manifestatios of anxiety, stress, depression etc.
Most people in your situation would have been tested -- which I assume you haven't done since you don't mention it. That's the obvious answer. Since that's so readily available, I'm not going to speculate further with you about your exposure, symptoms, or the likelihood of infection. Feel free to report your test result when it has been done.
My final advice is that in the future you discuss HIV status with partners before having any sexual contact at all, even safe sex (which is what you had). Think how much less worried you would be if you knew your partner is HIV negative!
Anyway, stay mellow until you are tested. If this is your only potential risk for HIV, you can definitely expect a negative result.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
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