HIV frottage naked dry humping risk??

[johns007]

hello, i have been worried sick this past week and i want to know whether I've put myself at risk, if i should worry or not, here is what happened: last week i was visiting this gay sauna and this guy and me started playing around rubbing our penises together with no condom (i am circumcised but he wasn't, i don't know if that makes a difference)then after that i laid on a bed and he got on top of me and started to "hump me" (during this whole time we were both completely naked and when he was humping me, his penis was in my groin area, where my penis would be) 3 minutes into the whole thing i ejaculated but he didn't and when i got up, there was still some semen on the tip of my urethra which i cleaned immediately with a towel after i got up, my two main concerns are this: 1)could i have been at risk when we rubbed our penises together?? 2) after i ejaculated and if somehow my urethra touched the tip of his urethra or if both our urethras were touching when he was "humping me" could i have been at risk of getting HIV like that?? should i test??? it would give me some great peace of mind if u answered and explained things, thanks

[johns007]

thanks again doc, appreciate the help

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Whatever is causing your sadness, it is not HIV.  Guilt, anxiety?   These are questions to take up with a counselor, not on this site. Time for this threa to end.  Take care.  EWH

[johns007]

Why do I still feel like something is wrong with me?? Why am I sad all the time??

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Correct.  EWH

[johns007]

Thanks for answering doc, it really puts my worries to rest, I started freaking out because I read online that if contaminated fluids come in contact with the urethra, that there is a chance for infection since the urethra is a mucous membrane, but it has to be penetrative for the virus to transmit correct??

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to the Forum.  I agree with the messages you have already received on our community sites and will try to expand a bit.  HIV is transmitted by penetrative genital or ano-genital intercourse and injection of infected materials deep into tissue. It is not transmitted by kissing or masturbation. Frottage of the sort you describe is masturbation in which bodies are used to provide the friction rather than a partner's hands.  In addition, proximity is not penetration.  All of this is true even though it is typical for persons engaged in mutual masturbation to get each others' genital secretion on one another in the course of the activity.  Thus the activities you describe are no risk for HIV or most typical STDs and there is no medical indication for testing.

I hope you find my comments reassuring.  EWH