Sorry I misunderstood the kids aren't yours. But congratulations, both on getting up the nerve and for the test result. You can trust it; the rapid HIV tests are foolproof.
Thank you doctor, when I said 2 kids I meant that he had children. I dont have any but I went in for a rapid HIV test today and it was negative Than You Jesus. My OCD of course is telling me that something went wrong but I'm doing my best to control my thoughts. Thank you for everything doctor.
Welcome to the HIV forum. Unfortunately, however, I can do nothing more than tell you what you already know: Most likely your partner didn't have HIV, and almost certainly you are not infected. But the only way to know is to be tested.
Enlarged lymph nodes, with no other symptoms, is not a sign of HIV.
In fact, you might have been tested. In most states in the US, all pregnant women are tested automatically. If you have not done so, you should call the obstetrician or hospital where your children were born. You may learn you had at least one, perhaps two, negative HIV tests.
But if not, you're a grown-up and can make yourself get tested. Force yourself to think rationally and concentrate on these truths: It isn't having an HIV test that gives someone the infection. You have it or you don't. If you have it and it isn't diagnosed, you will die of it sooner or later -- probably sooner. If you have it and the diagnosis is made, you will live a long and fruitful life. Also, research shows that even when someone who was nervous about testing turns out to have a positive result, the relief from getting an answer far outweighs the stress of learning s/he was infected. And if it is negative -- which almost certainly it will be -- you will be greatly relieved. So you have everything to gain and nothing to lose from having an HIV test.
So check with the doctors or hospitals who delivered your children. If you weren't tested for HIV then, just do it now. Just do it.
This is not a counseling or hand-holding service. I'm not going to reinforce your fear of testing by reassuring you more than this once. I will be happy to comment one last time if and when you return to tell me your HIV test result. Until then, I will have no further comment.
Regards-- HHH, MD