scared to death !!

[kalba2012]

Dear doctor ,

i had two exposure in  my entire life

first one was in septemer 2009
rubbing vignal girl using condom , the girl known on having mulitble relations lesbian and men (This exposure concern me more )

Second one in may 2011
girl perform oral sex ( sucking my penis without condom ) for 4 min ( she tested negative after 4 months of this exposure )

Well recently i got this systomps :-
1)2 months ago ,  cyst in earlobe ( right ear )  not very big like 1 cm in size
i kept playing with this cyst which lead to ear infection ( i dont know if this true) ( lymp node behined  that ear swollen for 12 days )
and since that time , im having feeling like water in my right ear with actually no water in it , no wax blocked !!  , i went to many doctor to check my ear
they checked it and found white patch in my ear drum ( The strange thing i got the water  feeling only if i think about it !! one of the doctor pointed that my ear dry !!
2) 3 palypale lymph node in my shoulder ( more than 4 months scary
Very small ones and you cant see them unless you searche for them >
i do alot of cycling every day like 2 hours ( 45km every day ) which could be the reaseon not hiv !!
beacuse there is pain in my shoulder , when i take reset from cycling they same to shrink in size and come back when i do cycling again >>> any relation maybe !! you idea

3) i have 2 little red spot in legs ( head pin size ) no idea what is it !!

the good thing back in 2009 after the first exposure i had  no ARS systomps

i dont know but im feeling bad very bad and  google make me more bad !!

i afraid to go and get tested ... i afraid from false positive which will give me heart attack

when hiv positive people having ear problem !! someone pointd that at last stage !!
is this true

thanks doctor !!



  

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to our Forum.  I think your risk of infection is far lower than you suspect and will try to provide some information which I hope you will find useful.  

There is no meaningful risk of HIV form either of the exposures you describe.  You mention that your 2009 exposures were condom protected- condoms are excellent protection  and reduce the risk of getting HIV virtually to zero.  Similarly, there is virtually no risk of getting HIV form receipt of oral sex, even if your partner had HIV and the fact that she had a negative HIV test after your exposure assures you that she was not infected.  Neither of these exposures places you at risk for HIV.

As far as your ear problems are concerned, these are not signs of HIV.  Similarly, swollen lymph nodes are a non-specific problem which by no means are a sign of HIV.  

If you have not been tested for HIV, I would recommend it.  I make this recommendation, not because you are at risk for infection but because I believe that nothing you have reported suggests you are at risk and when you are tested your test will be negative, providing you with the assurance that you are not infected.  There is little risk of having a false positive test result with the standard antibody tests for HIV which are highly accurate and will provide you with a reliable result to eliminate your concerns.

I hope my comments are helpful to you.  Take care. EWH

[kalba2012]

thank doctor ...

[Edward W Hook, MD]

As I've already told you "Neither of these exposures places you at risk for HIV."  thus, obviously, your risk is very, very low.  You do not need  to worry.

The reason I recommended testing for you is for your own peace of mind, nothing more.  If you can stop worrying, you do not need testing related to the exposures you have described.

It is time for this thread to end. Take care.  EWH

[kalba2012]

i mean frottage

[kalba2012]

thanks doctor for your replay

just i want to mention for first exposure there was no Penetration

only outside area of female *****

is this will even make my risk lower ??

thanks for your help >>>