Welcome to the forum.
I see no reason for concern here. For readers not familiar with the practice, I will explain my understanding of cupping, a practice in a number of Asian cultures (and perhaps others). Cups of metal, ceramic, glass et are heated, then placed on the skin, often with a lubricant like massage oil as a seal. As the cups cool, so does the air inside them, exerting a suction on the skin; that suction is considered a form of massage, i.e. tissue stimulation. In some cultures, cupping is a form of folk medicine, believed to be beneficial for various illnesses.
Properly done, cupping does not break the skin. Therefore, even if used on a massage customer with HIV or other blood borne infection (e.g., hepatitis B or C), there should be no risk of contamination of the cups. In addition, these are fragile viruses: the amount of heat need to make the suction work would be plenty high to kill any virus present. However, I do not know the "scraping" practice at all. But if it does not result in bleeding, you can be confident there is no risk for HIV or other blood borne viruses.
In summary, I see absolutely no health risk in the events you describe. Probably nobody in the world ever caught HIV from cupping or scraping; the only way HIV is transmitted in massage parlors is by unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Almost certainly your symptoms are due to some garden variety respiratory virus or influenza, and not HIV. If I were in a situation like yours, I would continue unprotected sex with my wife with no fear of infecting her, and I would not get tested for HIV or anything else.
But if you just can't get these fears out of your head, the only answer is to have an HIV test. Depending on the specific tests available in your doctor's office or clinic, you can have conclusive testing 4-8 weeks after the potential exposures; for more details on this, see the thread linked below:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1704700
In the meantime, don't worry. In addition to all the reasons above that I am confident you weren't infected, I'll give you one more statistic: in the thousands of threads in the 9 years since this forum started, nobody has ever reported catching HIV from an exposure they were worried about. You aren't going to be the first. If and when that happens, it will surely be from a standard high risk exposure, like unprotected vaginal or anal sex -- not from a minor event like the ones you have described.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD