Thank you for your feedback. If that's the case, my plan is to take a duo test 4 weeks post-exposure. I'll update you if there's anything abnormal with the result. Your post indeed allayed my fears significantly. Happy holidays to you too.
Welcome to the forum.
WAAAYYYY too much detail about the sexual exposure. I'm not put off or offended -- it's just that most of it makes no difference in risk. Only the basic facts are important: the vaginal sex was condom-protected. And oral sex, even unprotected, carries little or no risk for HIV transmisison. (Some experts believe truly no risk, and others cite data suggesting that people who receive BJs by infected partners once a day might be at significant risk after 55 years.)
Accordingly, there was no measurable risk of HIV from this exposure. At a philosophical level, I agree that **** happens and getting HIV from protected vaginal sex might be technically possible and might have happened from time to time. So what? It's also "technically possible" that you could be struck by lightning or a meterorite.
I don't even recommend testing in this situation. But if you would benefit from a negative result, for reassurance, of course you are free to do it. But if you do so, you need not wait 3 months. That is the formally recommended interval for stand-alone HIV antibody tests, but the standard HIV tests in regular use in fact are 100% reliable by 4-8 weeks, depending on the specific test (or combination of tests).
I hope this has been helpful. Best wishes and happy holidays-- HHH, MD
Thanks for the thanks. I'm glad to have helped.