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Dr. please help me... I am a very worried guy... I have known this girl for a little more than a year and we have kissed and fooled around before... this time about 12 days ago we got a little drunk and tried to have sex. Well I say tried because we tried but it didnt happen (I assume)... I did try to enter her vagina but my penis didnt enter fully and lost its erection every time... not sure if it actually went in... After a while we left it I was tired and we were both tipsy so we slept off... Later I asked her the same and she said that I didnt enter her but I am very worried...
I have known this girl for a year or so... she is a friends sister and I do know that she was in a serious relationship till a year or so ago. After that she has been with one more guy... that too they "fooled" around and I dont assume had sex... we are good friends and this event with her went beyond our normal fooling around and is affecting me... I cant ask her if she has been tested ever... I would like your opinion here on what the risk is? Some vaginal secretions may have come in contact with my penis as we were trying... its been 12 days and I know is early to show any signs if there would be... I had a sore throat before this event and that continues to be there, I am losing sleep at night and woke up all sweaty yesterday... but am frantic now since I am also on the start of a new relationship and really do not want to jeapodize it... I am worried please help.
I have known this girl for a year or so... she is a friends sister and I do know that she was in a serious relationship till a year or so ago. After that she has been with one more guy... that too they "fooled" around and I dont assume had sex... we are good friends and this event with her went beyond our normal fooling around and is affecting me... I cant ask her if she has been tested ever... I would like your opinion here on what the risk is? Some vaginal secretions may have come in contact with my penis as we were trying... its been 12 days and I know is early to show any signs if there would be... I had a sore throat before this event and that continues to be there, I am losing sleep at night and woke up all sweaty yesterday... but am frantic now since I am also on the start of a new relationship and really do not want to jeapodize it... I am worried please help.
Thank you for your inputs.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
No, no risk at all. EWH
Dr.
One final question... I recently gave blood for a blood test.. routine blood test... everything came fine and it was in the lab of my PCP, maybe I am very worried and tend to over think issues but is there any risk of getting HIV through giving blood for blood tests. I know this is far fetched but would like to know your opinion. I have heard of rare occasions when people may get infected during transfusion, but does the same risk relate to giving blood.
One final question... I recently gave blood for a blood test.. routine blood test... everything came fine and it was in the lab of my PCP, maybe I am very worried and tend to over think issues but is there any risk of getting HIV through giving blood for blood tests. I know this is far fetched but would like to know your opinion. I have heard of rare occasions when people may get infected during transfusion, but does the same risk relate to giving blood.
Dr. thank you for all your help. Truly appreciate you taking the time to explain the details.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Your Indian origins do not change my assessment.
The tooth infection does not change your risk. If you need to get tested for your peace of mind, do so but wait until at least 4 and preferrably 6-8 weeks after your non-exposure to get tested since at that time a negative test will completely rule out infection.
Circumsized men are at about half the risk of getting HIV as persons who are not, all other things being equal.
EWH
The tooth infection does not change your risk. If you need to get tested for your peace of mind, do so but wait until at least 4 and preferrably 6-8 weeks after your non-exposure to get tested since at that time a negative test will completely rule out infection.
Circumsized men are at about half the risk of getting HIV as persons who are not, all other things being equal.
EWH
Dr. thanks alot for your comments!! It does reassure me alot. Just a few more additions in details that I would want to point out
1. We are both from India and I dont know if that increases/ decreases the ratio's you presented. We currently do reside in the US.
2. I do find the facts reassuring but would like to know if the risk is something I need to get tested for. The girl and I are friends, we talked it out and she hasnt been tested but says she hasnt been in any risk per se over the past year, apart from kissing. In that note she recently had a tooth infection (wisdom tooth) and cant help to wonder if that may increase the risk from kissing. I am sorry for the over analysis doc as you can see I just want to make sure you know the entire picture.
3. Also an additional question was does being circumcized reduce the risk? Thanks alot for your time and patience.
1. We are both from India and I dont know if that increases/ decreases the ratio's you presented. We currently do reside in the US.
2. I do find the facts reassuring but would like to know if the risk is something I need to get tested for. The girl and I are friends, we talked it out and she hasnt been tested but says she hasnt been in any risk per se over the past year, apart from kissing. In that note she recently had a tooth infection (wisdom tooth) and cant help to wonder if that may increase the risk from kissing. I am sorry for the over analysis doc as you can see I just want to make sure you know the entire picture.
3. Also an additional question was does being circumcized reduce the risk? Thanks alot for your time and patience.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Please don't worry. There is no reason at all to think that this woman had HIV and even if she did, your risk would be tiny (close to zero). Let's review the facts as they apply to your situation:
1. As a heterosexual woman in the U.S, the chance that she has HIV is less, and probably far less, than 1 in 1000.
2. You did not penetrate her. Penetration is needed for sexual HIV transmission and simply getting her genital secretions on you is not a risk for HIV.
3. If you had penetrated her and if she had HIV, neither of which is likely, your risk for getting HIV from a single exposure is less than 1 infection per 1000 sex acts. thus on a mathematical basis and considering her chances of having HIV and the risk if she did and you penetrated her are less than 1 in a million
Aqs for your symptoms, they are non-specific and reflect the community acquired viral infection (cold) that you have.
You have no reason to worry. Take care. EWH
1. As a heterosexual woman in the U.S, the chance that she has HIV is less, and probably far less, than 1 in 1000.
2. You did not penetrate her. Penetration is needed for sexual HIV transmission and simply getting her genital secretions on you is not a risk for HIV.
3. If you had penetrated her and if she had HIV, neither of which is likely, your risk for getting HIV from a single exposure is less than 1 infection per 1000 sex acts. thus on a mathematical basis and considering her chances of having HIV and the risk if she did and you penetrated her are less than 1 in a million
Aqs for your symptoms, they are non-specific and reflect the community acquired viral infection (cold) that you have.
You have no reason to worry. Take care. EWH
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