Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your confidence in our services.
Responding first to the title of your question: HIV has never been known to be transmitted by hand-genital contact or fingering -- zero risk. Although there might be a theoretical risk for HSV, for practical purposes this also is zero risk.
Now having read the details, that remains my main response. It applies even if genital fluids are used as lubricant, and saliva is even lower risk. Saliva kills HIV, and kills or inhibits HSV. To your specific questions:
1) Being uncircumcised in theory raises the risk a bit, but when risk starts out as zero, a doubled chance is still zero.
2) Getting small amounts of vaginal fluid in your mouth, whether directly or indirectly by the means you describe, carries little or no risk.
3) Assuming this is your only potential risk, there is no need for testing for HIV or any other STD.
As we always say on this forum, testing is often wise even when the risk is zero -- i.e. if verbal reassurance leaves you worried and you need additonal confidence from a negative lab test. If you do it, have an HIV test only -- or maybe add a syphilis blood test as well -- but do not test for HSV. The blood tests are not perfect, and the chance of a misleading (and upsetting) false result is higher than the possibility that you were infected.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Doctor, thank you for responding my question, I was hesitant in commenting back because I don't want to seem overly paranoid, however its been only 10 days after the possible exposure and I am having a hard time keeping my peace of mind and a I am a little confuse about the following answer from you:
"Being uncircumcised in theory raises the risk a bit, but when risk starts out as zero, a doubled chance is still zero."
How does this applies in my case, I did not have intercourse but the answers I find online about uncircumcised males in similar scenarios are very few.
I would like to know also How long should I wait to test. Thank you and apologize in advance for being insistent.
Also, about I 'd like to know more about the risk of getting infected vaginal fluids in my mouth accidentally.
Your anxieties are leading you to look for meanings that don't exist! The onjly thing I meant by that comment is that being uncircumcised did not increase your risk of catching herpes or anything else from the exposure described.
Re oral exposure to vaginal fluid: see answer no. 2 above. The mouth is not highly susceptible to most STDs; and minor exposures almost never transmit STDs anyway.
As for testing, feel free to do it if you must. But before you spend any money, know this: if anything turns up positive, you'll have to go back to other sexual exposures to explain it. You simply were not at risk from the events described above.
That will end this thread. Really, mellow out. Nobody gets STDs from the sort of events you have described. Do your best to move on without worry.