Hi Dr. HHH-
Thank you for taking the time to answer my question.
My boyfriend and I had been in a monogamous relationship for 2.5 years. On April 8th he was away on vacation and had unprotected anal-receptive sex with a stranger. About 2.5 weeks later he came down with a 103 degree fever for 3 days, followed by an (almost) full body rash for 3 days. He tested negative at 3 weeks for antibodies, and positive for HIV (naat test and antibodies at 5 weeks).
We had unprotected anal/oral intercourse 1.5 weeks after his exposure (1 week before he had a fever). It was one time, and I was the anal-insertive partner.
It's now May 22nd. I have not had a fever or full-body rash. However, I'm being super-sensitive (aware of my body) and anxious about having contracted HIV from this exposure. My only symptoms are a few red bumps on my elbow and one on my arm (which the counselor at the HIV clinic said was a pimple). I also keep thinking my armpit glands are swollen but I really can't seem to feel them (no painful glands anywhere). I was blood-Rapid tested for antibodies and came up negative 2 days ago. NAAT testing has yet to come back. The counselor told me that my risk was very low, and I'd have to have terrible luck to have contracted it from one exposure.
My boyfriend and I are still together and I will be with him, even if we end up being a serodiscordant couple (though I'll have to find more info on how to still have a sex life). Anyway, my question is, what are my chances of having contracted HIV from this exposure? Is it likely he had a very high viral load (though undetectable antibodies) a week before becoming sick? I'm very scared. I know you answer a lot of similar questions in this forum, I hope that I am being specific enough to not have overlapped. Thanks again for answering my question.