I'm sure this must be terribly frustrating for you. No doubt the doctor here will get to your questions soon after Christmas, but as a lay person, I am puzzled by certain things:
1. You clearly have some difficult health issues, and I'm wondering which ones bother the anesthesiologist the most, as well as what his idea of being 'under control' is.
2. Also, you say you see a doctor once a week: What kind of doctor, and is he in contact with the anesthesiologist in question?
3. What does your eye surgeon say about all this?
In my experience with bilateral cataract surgery, the anesthesia consisted of a mild tranquilizer administered I.V. and a bunch of ointments and drops the nurses put into my eyes. The surgery itself took about 15 to 20 minutes, and that was it. I was awake and alert the whole time; there was no pain, no stress, and no 'coming out of it' in a recovery room.
As surgeries go (and I've had a few), this was not a big deal, so I'm wondering what's going on in your case.
By the way, if you do get the OK for surgery, be sure that you and your eye surgeon have had a long, detailed, heart-to-heart discussion about your eye's shape and health, and choose the very best lens for your purposes.
As a matter of fact, now that I think about it, it could be useful to post your questions in the MedHelp eye forum:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Eye-Care/show/43?controller=forums&action=show&id=43&camp=msc
Dr. Hagen, one of the opthalmologists there, gives complete and thoughtful answers, and he responds very quickly.