Did I totally Over React

[nygirl7]

My son and his friend (20) came in the house last night while I was busy making dinner etc (basically stressed to the max) and all of a sudden he is asking where my sewing kit is. I'm like what for since when do you sew? He said oh no I'm gonna pierce Jon's ears. Now I know this kid Jon is a huge pillhead and I dont know what else he does aside from that but I said no there is no way in hell you are putting needles into anybody in my bathroom - of course he couldn't understand why. I told him Look it took me years to get over hcv I dont know anything about this kid then you are going to poke holes in him, have blood droplets around and put those needles back into the kit?

He got so mad and told me that I was a crazy idiot that I wouldn't get hep again that way blah blah so we had a HUGE fight. Like seriously I almost threw him out.

I think I was more mad that once I had said why it made me uncomfortable and he didn't respect that and all I've gone through that is what got me really going.

So yes overreaction I admit but does anybody on here understand why I'd feel like that?  Would you?

It's hard being so paranoid about things but I just am. I just want to keep that one little stage of my liver that i have left and do not want to take any chances even if they are totally irrational and yes of course I know I wouldn't get it back that way..............duh................

Just feeling bad today over the argument I guess.

[Kathy73]

I'm sure when he needs to "borrow" money he'll facilitate a reapproachment. Its amazing how flexible their stubborn nature is when they want something. That's certainly the only time I hear from my 23 year old son...when he wants something.

[nygirl7]

OH my daughter went out and got a tatoo on both of her ankles - we had no idea at the time that you could indeed get hcv from them but now I always want to have her retested........I know I'm being silly but you are right Cindy as a mom you just HAVE to worry.

I tried to apologize to my son last night but he is more stubborn then I am and now today he wont answer his phone. Well thats good he can't hit me up for money if he's not talking to me.

Getting my ears pierced once was enough I dont know how these people do it over and over and all over the place........jez I'm old!

[Kathy73]

My daughter once went three months without saying a word to me. In my head I was right and in her head she was right. It made for a very uncomfortable period of time. Finally I took the high road and apologized for not really hearing what she had to say. I was so invested in what I wanted and didn't hear that she was saying that she felt that she wasn't being heard. When I am in the moment of the argument, I can't hear or see anyone's viewpoint but my own.

That aside, my girlfriend pierced my ears with a needle and potato back in 1974 and I howled like a banshee!

[EyesofBlue55]

You had every right to tell him no-I would have told him to go buy his own needles and do it somewhere else beside your bathroom.....I would have reacted the same way..Young adults do not understand ANYTHING !!They are invincible and are going to do what they want.I have a daughter that "HAD" to have a tattoo when she was 18...I told her I didnt think that was a good idea(this was before i found out I have hcv)She did it anyway.Now she tells me that shes using her tax money to have it removed!!!!!More needles!!!!!I cringe now at the thought of doing anything that could put them at risk. Mothers DO know best...Been there,done that......One day maybe he will understand.....If they would only listen and respect your wishes????????????????????