It is possible that either or even both of you had been infected with HSV 1, the usual cold sore virus, for years and didn't know it and didn't have symptoms, then showed up with symptoms.
I think your avoiding oral sex is really unnecessary at this point. Both of you now have HSV 1, so you are highly unlikely to get it at a new location. If I were in your situation, I definitely wouldn't worry about having oral sex, either direction.
In terms of what is on your penis - unknown, but again, if you both have HSV 1, it really doesn't matter in terms of transmission.
Terri
Just to add, I think I gave my coldsore to her. We had not had oral sex since April. I am also confused how I got my coldsore because even social kissing is not a norm here.
Hi Terri,
Is it possible that I have Hsv2? Even I never had sex with some other people?
Wife only got coldsores this april of 2013 while my coldsores was back from 6 or 7 years ago while my genital symptom was back in January. I am crushed.
1. Is it possible that you acquired new HSV 1 infection 6-7 years ago? If yes, then is it possible that you got new genital and oral infection at the same time? That happens.
2. The IgM test is completely useless. IgM test are frequently falsely positive and Igm can be made with old infection, so it cannot be interpretted to mean anything.
3. IgG should always be positive.
4. I seriously doubt that. What need to happen is to have the bump swab tested when is comes up using PCR for herpes if you are concerned.
Does your wife get cold sores? Is she the giver of oral sex to you? Could she have kissed you and given you oral sex during the same encounter?
Terri