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Painless, unitchy rash on inner thigh wk after lapdance
Dear Dr,
I am a 22yr old female and about a week ago I went to a strip club for the first time with my friend. She ended up buying me a lapdance that I didn’t want and tried to refuse. The dance only lasted about 30seconds-1 minute. The problem here is, I was wearing pretty short shorts, so my legs were completely bare. She was wearing nothing but a gstring/thong. There wasn’t a whole lot of grinding of any kind. More like her sitting on my lap & sliding up and down on my legs so she could flip her legs up over my head.
I didn’t feel any kind of wetness get on me, scabs, or anything funky rubbing on me. When I looked at her body, she seemed pretty clean and smoothe looking with no sores of any kind. I read that lapdances are no real risk. BUT I was wearing shorts and I hear of people having herpes in other places..like their behinds..which hers, was on my BARE legs. I’m a pretty small girl, Idk if that makes my skin any thinner? I am 5’5’’ 110 lbs.
I wasn’t TOO worried until 2 days ago I noticed a small rash developing on my inner left thigh…the next morning, Monday, it had spread a little more down my leg. It does not hurt, itch, or have any kind of fluids or sores. It's not very noticeable unless you look closely in the right lighting. Lastnight, I put aloevera on it and it seems to have faded for the most part and now there are just some tiny pin-point red dots. It's just making me a bit nervous. I did wear weird towel like material all weekend, went swimming, and I live in AZ. So I'm trying to take this into account for causes besides herpes. :[ I've had rashes b4, but usually knew the cause.
1. Should I be concerned about the lap dance on my bare legs?
2. I heard of "herpes rash" (?) does it have certain characteristics? Like mine?
3. Isn't a lapdance considered "skin to skin contact"?
4. I'm afraid to have sex w my boyfriend now. Should I obstain from sex?
5. I have sensitive skin, could this be simply from something else?
Thankyou!
I am a 22yr old female and about a week ago I went to a strip club for the first time with my friend. She ended up buying me a lapdance that I didn’t want and tried to refuse. The dance only lasted about 30seconds-1 minute. The problem here is, I was wearing pretty short shorts, so my legs were completely bare. She was wearing nothing but a gstring/thong. There wasn’t a whole lot of grinding of any kind. More like her sitting on my lap & sliding up and down on my legs so she could flip her legs up over my head.
I didn’t feel any kind of wetness get on me, scabs, or anything funky rubbing on me. When I looked at her body, she seemed pretty clean and smoothe looking with no sores of any kind. I read that lapdances are no real risk. BUT I was wearing shorts and I hear of people having herpes in other places..like their behinds..which hers, was on my BARE legs. I’m a pretty small girl, Idk if that makes my skin any thinner? I am 5’5’’ 110 lbs.
I wasn’t TOO worried until 2 days ago I noticed a small rash developing on my inner left thigh…the next morning, Monday, it had spread a little more down my leg. It does not hurt, itch, or have any kind of fluids or sores. It's not very noticeable unless you look closely in the right lighting. Lastnight, I put aloevera on it and it seems to have faded for the most part and now there are just some tiny pin-point red dots. It's just making me a bit nervous. I did wear weird towel like material all weekend, went swimming, and I live in AZ. So I'm trying to take this into account for causes besides herpes. :[ I've had rashes b4, but usually knew the cause.
1. Should I be concerned about the lap dance on my bare legs?
2. I heard of "herpes rash" (?) does it have certain characteristics? Like mine?
3. Isn't a lapdance considered "skin to skin contact"?
4. I'm afraid to have sex w my boyfriend now. Should I obstain from sex?
5. I have sensitive skin, could this be simply from something else?
Thankyou!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
If the question is: do I think you are overly concerned about herpes? Absolutely! You are WAY too concerned if you are looking at your genital area with a mirror every day. That is definitely over the top.
You definitely have obsessive worry and need help in dealing with this fear. In addition, you need to get your boyfriend tested. If he is negative and is having sex only with you, then you can relax about getting herpes, right? I think his testing is essential for your happiness and peace of mind. Is there a reason he has not been tested? If I were single at this point in life, I wouldn't even consider having sex with someone who had not been tested for herpes. It is very reasonable for you to insist upon this.
If he does test negative, then the task is going to be for you to accept this and trust that the situation will be a safe one for you, and to believe that fully so you can live more completely.
What do you think?
Terri
You definitely have obsessive worry and need help in dealing with this fear. In addition, you need to get your boyfriend tested. If he is negative and is having sex only with you, then you can relax about getting herpes, right? I think his testing is essential for your happiness and peace of mind. Is there a reason he has not been tested? If I were single at this point in life, I wouldn't even consider having sex with someone who had not been tested for herpes. It is very reasonable for you to insist upon this.
If he does test negative, then the task is going to be for you to accept this and trust that the situation will be a safe one for you, and to believe that fully so you can live more completely.
What do you think?
Terri
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Yes, in general, many people with herpes rashes find them to be tender or painful. If she had herpes on her butt, even if that rubbed up against your thigh, the thick skin on your thigh would likely keep the virus from entering our body.
I mean that the clinician probably wouldn't be thinking herpes as she looked at the rash.
Herpes isn't that easy to catch, especially in situation such as the one you described.
Terri
I mean that the clinician probably wouldn't be thinking herpes as she looked at the rash.
Herpes isn't that easy to catch, especially in situation such as the one you described.
Terri
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
No, I would not be concerned about this lap dance situation as a method for herpes transmission.
A herpes rash would normally look like a group of water blisters on a thigh, unlike what you describe
A lap dance is not really considered skin to skin contact because the kinds of skin that came into contact with each other are not thin and do not allow virus to be shed as genital skin might do.
I don't think you should abstain from sex, no.
Yes, it could certainly be from sensitive skin that you are having this problem Rubbing is rubbing and irritation results from rubbing. I honestly would not be worried about this contact. If the rash continues, you could see a clinician about it, but my guess is, herpes is not going to be on the list of things they would rule out.
Terri
A herpes rash would normally look like a group of water blisters on a thigh, unlike what you describe
A lap dance is not really considered skin to skin contact because the kinds of skin that came into contact with each other are not thin and do not allow virus to be shed as genital skin might do.
I don't think you should abstain from sex, no.
Yes, it could certainly be from sensitive skin that you are having this problem Rubbing is rubbing and irritation results from rubbing. I honestly would not be worried about this contact. If the rash continues, you could see a clinician about it, but my guess is, herpes is not going to be on the list of things they would rule out.
Terri
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Yes, the soap easily destroys herpes virus.
Good question about talking with your mom. I think I probably wouldn't, actually.
Terri
Good question about talking with your mom. I think I probably wouldn't, actually.
Terri
Thank you doctor. :]
The virus is easily killed with soap and water though, so me rubbing soap all over the loofa should have taken care of the risk right? See, now my stomach is sinking with anxiety because maybe it's possible...
Also, do you think it'd be out of line to talk to my mom about her having genital herpes? She has only told my brother and I that she had it when she was younger and hasn't had any outbreaks ever since. Nothing more..I do remember her saying she only remembers one outbreak. I'm afraid to offend her or make her feel crummy if I talk to her about how I am afraid. I just hope she really hasn't used the loofa like she said.
The virus is easily killed with soap and water though, so me rubbing soap all over the loofa should have taken care of the risk right? See, now my stomach is sinking with anxiety because maybe it's possible...
Also, do you think it'd be out of line to talk to my mom about her having genital herpes? She has only told my brother and I that she had it when she was younger and hasn't had any outbreaks ever since. Nothing more..I do remember her saying she only remembers one outbreak. I'm afraid to offend her or make her feel crummy if I talk to her about how I am afraid. I just hope she really hasn't used the loofa like she said.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I seriously doubt that herpes has ever been transmitted in this way. However, just as we recommend not sharing towels, I think having your own loofa would be a good idea as well. I wouldn't be worried about genital herpes acqusition in the gym.
Terri
Terri
Hello Doctor!
I don't know if you'll still look at my post but I'm just wondering about the risks of living with a herpes positive mother.
There's a loofa type body scrubber in the shower that I use. Usually before I use it, I always soak it in water and mush up antibacterial soap on it because I thought this as being safe incase she used it. Until lastnight I started wondering if THAT even IS SAFE. Because I read that NO ONE in a household should share washcloths, razors, towels, etc. I ALWAYS use my own towels that I keep in my room. I've lived with her, sharing razors, towels, and wash cloths when I was little ages 0-17 and didn't acquire it...so I hate that I'm worried about this now.
The say STD because it's SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED but there's all these exceptions!!!
Could I get her ghsv1 or 2 from this body scrubber? I never usually take a shower directly after her and from my memory, the loofa is always dry when I get in the shower. But the center might still be soaked a little...now i'm worried about aquiring it from the shower items or laying in the bath tub and passing it to my bf! ;[
Also, I read you can't get hsv from sitting on gym equipment, even when wearing shorts. Is this true? I'm just nervous because I have some sort of pimple on my leg right beneath my bum and my shorts kept riding up when I'd sit down and I'm nervous the virus could have entered the little infected pore. I didn't use the equipment directly after anyone else.
Thank you so much if you read this!
I don't know if you'll still look at my post but I'm just wondering about the risks of living with a herpes positive mother.
There's a loofa type body scrubber in the shower that I use. Usually before I use it, I always soak it in water and mush up antibacterial soap on it because I thought this as being safe incase she used it. Until lastnight I started wondering if THAT even IS SAFE. Because I read that NO ONE in a household should share washcloths, razors, towels, etc. I ALWAYS use my own towels that I keep in my room. I've lived with her, sharing razors, towels, and wash cloths when I was little ages 0-17 and didn't acquire it...so I hate that I'm worried about this now.
The say STD because it's SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED but there's all these exceptions!!!
Could I get her ghsv1 or 2 from this body scrubber? I never usually take a shower directly after her and from my memory, the loofa is always dry when I get in the shower. But the center might still be soaked a little...now i'm worried about aquiring it from the shower items or laying in the bath tub and passing it to my bf! ;[
Also, I read you can't get hsv from sitting on gym equipment, even when wearing shorts. Is this true? I'm just nervous because I have some sort of pimple on my leg right beneath my bum and my shorts kept riding up when I'd sit down and I'm nervous the virus could have entered the little infected pore. I didn't use the equipment directly after anyone else.
Thank you so much if you read this!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You are most welcome. Getting on top of this is important for both of you to lead more normal lives, sexually and herpes-wise. I know you can do this!
Terri
Terri
I agree. Thank you so much for talking this through with me. You've helped me so much...you have no idea!
I plan to have both my boyfriend and I tested in January latest. Partly, because I want to be tested again as soon as I get my insurance back at that time.. He's not against getting tested but for some reason, just hasn't. He says he's never had a reason to or seen anything odd going on with his body. I think that's ridiculous for him to say since he's had partners before. I'm taking comfort in the fact that we've been together and frequently engaged in intercourse and there hasn't been one health issue with us besides my hpv. So far, so good I guess.
But yes, thank you thank you thank you SO incredibly much doctor!! You're amazing for all that you do for people. :]
I plan to have both my boyfriend and I tested in January latest. Partly, because I want to be tested again as soon as I get my insurance back at that time.. He's not against getting tested but for some reason, just hasn't. He says he's never had a reason to or seen anything odd going on with his body. I think that's ridiculous for him to say since he's had partners before. I'm taking comfort in the fact that we've been together and frequently engaged in intercourse and there hasn't been one health issue with us besides my hpv. So far, so good I guess.
But yes, thank you thank you thank you SO incredibly much doctor!! You're amazing for all that you do for people. :]
EDIT: I don't know why more people AREN'T concerned about it and just continue to touch everyone around them, share things, and engage in sexual relations so openly.
Ahh relief. Thank you Doctor!
I'm hoping to have you answer me one more time and then I'll be settled with this post.
My mom always told me, "If you get herpes, you'll know it." Because she had some sort of ghsv outbreak when she was younger but says she hasn't had any since. (i was born c-section)
I've been having anxiety over my fear of contracting herpes in my lifetime. It's like I've convinced myself I am going to get it one day. I was just tested for the second time within the year and a half I've been with my current boyfriend. But still, I'm worried something is going to pop up (he hasnt been tested...im sure this has a lot to do with my anxiety.)
SO, every day I look at myself in a mirror down there and thoroughly check for my health. Would you say this is over-paranoia and I would feel a certain sort of pains if I had an outbreak or hsv sore...in other words, I don't need to look in the mirror so frequently & I'll feel something wrong most likely?
I really don't know how to deal with this fear I have, it's all those statistics I read on the internet of how many people have hsv...it's like I feel only those lucky enough won't contract it. I really wish I had never read about the std at all. The statistics are frightening and Idk why more people are concerned about it and just continue to touch everyone around them.
I don't know how to word all of that right, I'm sorry. & I'm sorry for taking up so much of your time. I GREATLY appreciate you helping me with all of this.
I'm hoping to have you answer me one more time and then I'll be settled with this post.
My mom always told me, "If you get herpes, you'll know it." Because she had some sort of ghsv outbreak when she was younger but says she hasn't had any since. (i was born c-section)
I've been having anxiety over my fear of contracting herpes in my lifetime. It's like I've convinced myself I am going to get it one day. I was just tested for the second time within the year and a half I've been with my current boyfriend. But still, I'm worried something is going to pop up (he hasnt been tested...im sure this has a lot to do with my anxiety.)
SO, every day I look at myself in a mirror down there and thoroughly check for my health. Would you say this is over-paranoia and I would feel a certain sort of pains if I had an outbreak or hsv sore...in other words, I don't need to look in the mirror so frequently & I'll feel something wrong most likely?
I really don't know how to deal with this fear I have, it's all those statistics I read on the internet of how many people have hsv...it's like I feel only those lucky enough won't contract it. I really wish I had never read about the std at all. The statistics are frightening and Idk why more people are concerned about it and just continue to touch everyone around them.
I don't know how to word all of that right, I'm sorry. & I'm sorry for taking up so much of your time. I GREATLY appreciate you helping me with all of this.
Thank you so much for your quick response doctor!
So, you say a herpes rash would have watery blisters? That's relieving since my rash did not.
So, basically a herpes rash follows in the same direction of traits as any other herpes outbreak would...sore area, fluid filled bumps, then burts, crust over, etc..?
Would a "herpes rash" hurt in general too? And/or itch?
So say she had the virus shedding on her backside..or a sore...and it touched my leg, my legs could not catch the virus through the pores?
& you said at the end of your post that if the rash persists, I can see a clinician but "herpes is not going to be the on the list of things they will rule out"?? Ahh either I'm reading that wrong or maybe its a typo but does that mean, they could suspect it being hsv related?
Herpes is one of my biggest fears and I've mistakenly started to convince myself I can catch it anywhere easily. :[ would you say that's a valid/normal way to live thinking?
Thank you so, so much for your time. I know my posts are long. I just don't have insurance right now and needed to get it all out to a dr.
So, you say a herpes rash would have watery blisters? That's relieving since my rash did not.
So, basically a herpes rash follows in the same direction of traits as any other herpes outbreak would...sore area, fluid filled bumps, then burts, crust over, etc..?
Would a "herpes rash" hurt in general too? And/or itch?
So say she had the virus shedding on her backside..or a sore...and it touched my leg, my legs could not catch the virus through the pores?
& you said at the end of your post that if the rash persists, I can see a clinician but "herpes is not going to be the on the list of things they will rule out"?? Ahh either I'm reading that wrong or maybe its a typo but does that mean, they could suspect it being hsv related?
Herpes is one of my biggest fears and I've mistakenly started to convince myself I can catch it anywhere easily. :[ would you say that's a valid/normal way to live thinking?
Thank you so, so much for your time. I know my posts are long. I just don't have insurance right now and needed to get it all out to a dr.
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