So Glad you have this recovery you give me hope for my husband whom has left me and is destroying our wonderful life. He turned his violence on me and got a lawyer an went into a abuse shelter. He is destroying me with his behaviour and I am not sure he even remembers the real me.
It seems she is calm and that is a good thing as the alternative is she could be angry and aggressive like my Husband. I am glad you have this peace for now I hope it stays..good luck!
I can understand your pain ...my Husband left me after being violent and then going into a childlike terrified child . He is saying I abused him ! He retained a lawyer to dismantle our marriage. i am devastated he won't talk to me or let his Doctors talk to me. I really don't understand any of this as we were so in love before frontal love brain tumour.
My husband has frontal lobe brain tumour removed 70%. Since then he is not himself. He is destroying me and our marriage . He has a Lawyer and is trying to dismantle our life. He became abusive to me then would switch to being a childlike victim. He put himself in a abuse shelter and now has told terrible stories about me. No one will help ! Doctors won't speak to me his family whom were never there for us are now involved and making it about him getting his money out of our marriage.
I have spent months praying and crying but he still won't have anything to do with me.
He wants to be a victim and be rescued and he is making me out to be a horrible person when I was the only one there every step of the way. I am devastated!
It's been a long time since your post. I hope you have gone to a women's support organization of some sort and gotten the support you need to get yourself out of the situation...for the sake of the children. If you have done all you can for your husband but you are going down the rabbit hold economically and emotionally you need to now switch your allegiance to your children and yourself. You may need to move to another town or state where you have relatives who will take you in and start a new life. Your husband isn't the person you married through no fault of yours or his...you just have to realize that and move on. There are also legal aid organization that may be able to help you with the debt question. Women's groups will be able to point you to a therapist.
I work with a woman who has a pituitary tumor that is morphing into something else. It is now shaped like an octopus. She use to be a nice person, but she has become mean. She is very vindictive and picks a target at work and does her best to get them fired. She tried to get me fired on several occasions, but thank God I have a boss that sees right through her. I try not to let it bother me, but there are times I have wanted to strangle her (and I am not a violent person). Everyone at work feels that she is like the movie fatal attraction.