There are many medications for OCD and I think the one you took was just not the right one for you. Don't let that sour you on meds. I'm guessing it was a general practitioner that prescribed the meds since you have not seen a psychiatrist? GPs have much more knowledge now about mental disorders and how to treat them these days but there is no substitute for the psychologist/psychiatrist combination. The psychologist can teach you CBT and talk through things that are bothering you while the psychiatrist can prescribe the medication.
As far as looking at a guy and saying it's a woman...why not say "NOPE, ENOUGH, NOT GOING THERE!" Kind of yell at yourself in your head. It is a form of self-coaching. What you are doing is not even giving into the thought. When you give the thought no credit, it will go away because you have taken the fear out of it.
So for instance I have panicked when I drive sometimes. But recently I haven't because when I start to think about it happening I say to myself "bring it on, I can handle it." So I have just taken the fear away from it and I don't panic.
You may have the same urination problem I had. You go but you feel like you still have to go. Mine stemmed from peeing my pants when I was 7 in a very public place. So it was something in my past that kind of came back to haunt me when my stress level was increased.
I don't mind talking to people on the forum. What I do mind is when people keep posting and act like they never read what I wrote. I want to see action from people. I want to see that you have made an appointment to see a psychologist. I want to see you moving forward. OCD is not something you have to suffer from for the rest of your life. We will never be OCD free but it can be managed quite well. I'm married, successful, have children...it has not held me back.
In the mean time here is a breathing exercise you can do to help calm yourself down. Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold it for five seconds and count this out in your head, then let it all out through your mouth. You can try it first lying down with your hands on your stomach so you can feel the rise and fall of it. This is a technique you can do anywhere and nobody will even know you are doing it. Basically it is possible to hyperventilate without really knowing you are doing it...blurry vision, depersonalization...so try the breathing next time this happens.
Also, look up some meditation videos on YouTube. There are some good ones out there and they will help you relax. And above all, try to keep yourself busy even if it is manual labor. Go cut something down in your yard. Anything to keep your mind occupied.
Thanks for replying. What you said made a lot of sense I will definitely look into getting with a psychologist and psychiatrist. The side effect i got from taking paxil was after i took it for about 2 weeks first i felt really mellow (super relaxed) and then at night i started to feel really really down and had nonstop suicidal thoughts when that happened i just ran to my bed and covered up myself and luckily made it through the night. You know what's strange i was outside and when i saw a guy i would tell myself that's a woman and then I'd have no groinal response. Do you think i should keep doing this? I also forgot to mention my eye's feel really stressed if i look at people with green or blue eyes it doesn't make any sense at all cause i used to think and still do believe green and blue eyes are the coolest ever. With my urination problem....... yeah i actually have to go but when i do i never feel like i'm completely empty. I think i have to find out how to relax and do what i want to do. . . before the hocd even though i was depressed i came up with business plans and read tons of books on entreprenuership now i can barely focus on wiping the floors in my house. I really hope I can pull myself back together. Thanks again and please keep replying i don't have anyone to talk to or feel comfortable talking to about this problem.
You have had a very different life. You went to college at 13 so you are some sort of genius. But at 13 you are not going to fit into college. The people are so much older than you...no wonder you developed self-esteem issues. As for the urination....do you reallly have to go or just feel like you have to? I ask because stress caused me to irrationally think I had to go all the time when I was in college. Even when I left the bathroom I wanted to run right back in. I had to make myself stop that behavior. I had to stop giving into the thoughts.
You need to learn how to counter these thoughts. You need to learn cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and that comes from a psychologist. This is a disorder not unlike diabetes for instance. Their bodies don't make insulin and our bodies lack certain neurotransmitters in our brains for the cells to function properly. Sometimes you can get by with CBT alone and sometimes you need both i.e., medication to correct the imbalance.
The whole reason you are questioning whether you want to live is because you have been fighting OCD for so long you have become depressed. It has made you angry. Trust me...who wants to live like this...nobody. We all just want to be normal. You mentioned panic attacks, blurry vision and what I assume is depersonalization which are all common symptoms of anxiety. I am a big believer in getting help for what is wrong and I think in your case it is the OCD. Unchecked OCD leads to off the hook anxiety and then on to depression.
As far as the meds go, I have never been on paxil so I'm not sure what side effects you are talking about. I take Wellbutrin now and have taken Prozac, celexa and Lexapro in the past along with some klonopin. Maybe you can enlighten me about the side effects you had.
Looking forward to hearing from you. Take care of you!