Oh gosh, this sounds very hard. I have a son who is 17.5 years old and is very depressed. And anxious. So, we are dealing with a lot. He's a bit challenging right now. And my son who is 16 is going through some teenage grumpiness as well. But this sounds pretty extreme. My friend's child will not be around their father because they perceive they've been greatly hurt by them. So, they are avoiding them altogether. Pretty hard to live under one roof that way. But there is a mother that runs interference so it just kind of works out. Do you have a partner that is also there to mediate at all? What is her reasoning for being so angry at you? Anything at all legit? I say that as a person that admits I'm flawed myself and didn't do everything right. I try to listen now and hear. Some makes some sense and some is just kind of crazy talk I listen to but it's not based in reality but my son's depression. Does your daughter have mental health issues? She's 19, that limbo age. Still child/but also an adult. I don't think it is tenable for you two to reside together for too long like this. She probably needs her next step planned out . . . continuing school, trade school or job. Her own place. Paying bills. That's hard but it's maybe getting to be time. Can you offer family therapy? This can be really helpful. We did this and my son had a long list of my flaws but the therapist put a boundary on HIM and it was better from them on. Just a thought. Therapy for the two of you. You could do teletherapy like zoom, both in different rooms?