Hello-My husband and I have a two year old daughter who is very difficult to manage. I know it is normal for a child to be defiant at tis age, but our daughter will rarely follow any simple command-it is a big deal if she says "please" when asked or comes when called. She screams at the park, the mall and basically everywhere in public. However, her speech is very advanced and she says, "wonderful" when asked how her bath was. She knows almost all of her alphabet on sight-out of sequence, So, how does thiis logic not translate into acceptable toddler behavior-tantrums once a day rather than all day? Please any help is appreciated. We are older parents-had her at 39 and am a first time mommy. I love her so much but am at wits end-she wont hold hands, brush teeth, follow simple directions-and I KNOW she understands-she laughs and gets a gleam in her eye when she disboeys.