It became known that my friends 6-year-old son performed oral sex on a 3-year-old boy while at daycare. In addition to this, the 6 year-old has been fondled almost daily by a 9-year-old boy. It is very difficult to discuss the situation with the 6-year old because he sobs almost uncontrollably at every question, more so on certain questions. To make matters more difficult, the 6-year-old lives with his mother in the house with another couple that provides the childcare.
The only other incident of this nature was two years ago when he exposed himself on many occasions to another boy near his age. It was out of the ordinary only because of the frequency, almost obsessive with any contact with this boy. It was stopped with constant supervision.
At present, the attitude of the mother and the other couple is that "boys will be boys." In my opinion, there almost certainly has to be an adult influence either directly or indirectly with this type of ongoing behavior. Obviously, proper supervision is lacking. Once I became aware of the situation I reassured the child he was not in trouble, not his fault, etc. The next time I saw him he would not even speak casually with me and would leave the room I was in. I believe that he has been threatend and is very scared, not of me but with exposing the secret. It was repoted to the police. They went to their home to be "sure no adult was molesting children." Just having the police there sent the 6-year-old into a crying frenzy which caused the police to question the adults there about the boys reaction to their presence. CPS is supposed to follow up within a week.
Could you please give me some feedback on what is within normal range of 6-year-old boys sexual curiosity and behavior? This boy is extremely compliant but is very bossy with other children in private. I am fearful for this boys well being as well as other children around him.