Is it common for 2 boys to courteous about each other. A 7 year old boy and a 8 year old where caught on top of each other. The 7 year was laying on the 8 year boys back. Now they were caught before it led to anything but what will make the 7 year boy want to lay on the 8 year old boy.
After speaking with the 7 year, it was later discovered that this had happened before. They even touched each other bottom. Do any one think that this is a issue? Do you think counseling is needed? I am so hurt and confused that I can’t see what is right or what should be done.
I believe you answered his questions and handled it perfectly. When a group of boys get together they all get curious and more often than not do silly things. I was not happy to find my son peeing with two other boys at the same time into the same toilet but after i spoke to him I realized sometimes children do some weird things out of curiosity.
Talking about what is not an appropriate touch is tough on any parent. I remember when my son sprung the birds and the bees talk on me. I was not ready but we drove right into it. He had it all wrong and I was unsure if I should correct him or let him think he was right; regardless I had to be ready and had to set his thoughts more clear.
Keep the doors open and keep talking, a curious parent is no different than a curious child. Know when to be silent and know when to talk. Kids will give you all the time in the world at age 8 if you want to listen.
Yes I agree a rewarding reaction from him one would expect ...good luck
Thank you. I appreciate your opinions and advice. I'm starting to feel better since I've had a few days to absorb all this. I talked to another mom within our group (of mom&child friendships), and she, too, assured me that at this age, it is probably no more than curiosity. My son did express to me that he'd never do it again because he thought it was "gross" - and that's great for me to hear!
I think you handled this with aplomb , and my answer is yes although it sounds abnormal to us adults, it is in fact a curiosity most children go through, it is great that you did have the conversation with him and express what he can and cannot do .I think children often look at each others bodies and maybe some touching, I doubt most times it goes any further ,well at least at this age .If anyone was to touch him very often the children feel so much guilt they stay quiet and no one knows for years tell him that ,should tell you if any older person, family or otherwise does touch him or attempts to, to come and tell you .good luck