Stuck and need advice

[carlie78]

I'm not sure which forum this should be in so I'm starting here.

I have a 7 year old daughter.  Her dad left when she was 3 but was still in her life.  He had been in and out of jail and prison and on and off herion. I knew better but for my daughter's sake, I would let them see each other but only while I was there.  More recently,  the last time we heard from him was March 2015 and he owes 15k in child support.  I just found out that he went back to prison in September and will be released and of paper/ terminated.  He is also expecting a baby with his girlfriend in a different state.  So here's where I'm stuck. ...I have an attorney and prepared to have him sign over his rights( he did the same thing with his first kid,  history has repeated itself). Today my daughter asked to write him a letter and if I would mail it to him.  She did and I breaks my heart.  She told him to come be a dad.  Should I mail it or hold onto it or what?
Thanks in advance

[RockRose]

Yes,  I think you should mail it.  And tell her you don't believe he will probably respond favorably,  but she is a very brave and wise little girl.  A girl with enough pluck to write her rejecting father a letter telling him to man up will get far in life.

And he won't ever be able to say to her,  I never knew you wanted me.

I think it's a fabulous idea.  

[carlie78]

Thank you.  I'm pretty sure i'm going to mail it. He needs to know. My fear is having to watch her little heart break but that wont matter if I mail the letter or not. And she cant blame me later on if i dont mail it.  She has such a bond with him even in his absence I can literally feel the pain in my own heart for her.