I have tried pretty much everything, he chooses his own clothes as it is always has from an early age he is very independant but only wears same two pairs pants it is funny I bought a second pair same type different colour as he was wearing almost same items daily .... anyway he is very strong willed, personality and eating is a problem, we have taken the don't get things before doing something he then threatens back and says he will do it IF he gets what he wants ( just becomes battle time ) I have caved on some occasions for my own sanity but I am the displinarian in every way, my older son complete opposite ...calm let me choose his clothes till he was about 11 ....
but you can't compare i know, I am finding it Soul destroying in so many ways, I have asked doctor to test for certain things and awaiting to have him assessed as this has been going on too long
I do focus on his positive he is involved in extra outside sports if it weren't for those think it would be even worse not sure? He seems very smart and as far as schooling no problems ( well not yet ) so hope that stays the same marks are good so guess I should be thankful. Thanks for your input
Letting him wear the clothes he likes would be a good idea, and having him take his shower before he has any TV or PC or Games or anything important to him that he enjoys,make him aware he doesnt get to do those things until he has taken his shower.Ignore the "mean Mum" attitude we have all had that ,they dont mean it.My kids hated to put their coats on I had a battle all the time I thought they would get hyperthermia, but they dont so maybe let that go a bit ,if he has a jacket he probably will be warm enough, we do worry about them.same with eating be less concerned and say less .Focus on his positive side and priase him when he does something good,