9 year old pooping pants only at home

[jenifferp]

i have tried everything to stop him and he only does it at home if he is at school he will go to the bathroom and when he is at home and dont get his way he will poop his pants just to make me mad and. And the counsler at school said he may be ADHD but i believe he could control it at school but not at home. What can i do to help my 9 year old son? thank you Jennifer

[BlueRidgeMama]

If you think he has control over this and is doing it on purpose to make you mad, you should take all his stuff away and leave him with a bed and his clothes and that is it.  Every day he doesn't do this, he gets to earn one thing back.

Watch out for replacement behaviors.  teach him to use his language skills to talk about something if he is angry.

If the behavior escalates, better see a child psych.

[tmv]

I'd take him to the pediatrician to make sure somehthing medical isn't going on. Then I'd sit down and talk at length about why he thinks this is happening and tell him of the other ways that he can express his anger or whatever. Best wishes.