vent before i explode!

[averysmommy111813]

I am 29w6d pregnant.. I have had the worst week..my 7 year old son has been in the hospital all week he had surgery Thursday and I have held myself together until now! All day today my husband has been talking about how sexy all these other women are (for example SKINNY girls with PERFECT figures at walmart) and it kinda hurt my feelings. I even asked him tonight if he was still attracted to me because I feel fat and ugly at the moment. Don't get me wrong I'm happy to.have gained weight because that means my baby is gaining weight and is healthy but it still brings my self esteem down. Well anyways I asked him to make love to me after our son went to bed but he was too busy watching a football game so I went on to bed.. hurt and upset..wake up to use the bathroom and there my husband is on some live sex chat/video getting off to some skinny girl
.I am now sitting outside bawling my eyes out and he don't even care...I am absolutely heartbroken.guess that answers my question about if he was still attracted to me! :(

[RockRose]

Averysmommy,  sometimes we need to look truth square in the eye.  I had three full-term pregnancies and no,  my husband wasn't sexually attracted to me in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters.  I knew it  and that's just life - my husband isn't attracted to that body style.  So I wouldn't have asked him about it - I knew,  and there's no sense in asking are you still attracted to me right now.  The answer is no.

BUT.  Your husband is an insensitive cad for talking about other women who right now have perfect bodies while you're carrying his baby.  That is stupid,  insensitive boorish behavior.

Some men ARE attracted to pregnant women - most men aren't.  But most men have the love and maturity to shut up about it.

And I'd tell your husband just that,  in exactly those terms,  while you grow his baby.

[thirdtimemum]

Oh no, yes i understand how you'd feel!! You need to have a big talk with him and tell him you you're feeling, you are so sensitive when pregnant, and he should be taking better care than to be doing that sort of stuff around you knowing how you'd feel about it. I'm sure its not as bad as it all seems....i felt that way about my partner too when i was pregnant only 5 months ago, and our pregnancy hormones only seem to magnify everything about 100 times worse than they actually are. I hope everything with your son is ok now.

[poo1987]

It's really sad to hear...but most husbands tend to do such things when their wives expectting. But u don't really get bothered with such situation n keep urself busy with both of ur babies. Once u'll deliver, u'll be back in shape with some diet n exercise.. So don't worry... Good luck dear!! Take care...