now or later?

[missy3102]

I just got married. My husband & I want a baby. How long should we wait to start trying, I'm 37 & he's 49? Can we wait or get started now because of our age? It'd be nice to enjoy being newlyweds, but I don't want to miss the window.

[ShannyO]

That's a tough question. My husband & I are both 35. Been together 5 years, married for 3 & just had our 1st child Oct 6th. Maybe give your marriage 6 months before getting serious about pregnancy & I guess if it happens before then, then it was meant to be.

[mfayb]

I understand you wanting to start your family but I would try to at least take some time to enjoy each other.  Dates are much harder to come by once baby is here. Maybe enjoy a nice spring break vacation and see what happens then ;)

[38nprego]

Wow congrats well I just got married in march I'm 38 he's 50 were very similar right any way he has 1 I have 5 we really hadn't even considered because of our ages because it was now or never and we weren't ready now so we been very careful but God had a different plan I'm 4 months pregnant and were excited if you know your union is blessed I say go for it !!!

[Karoline001979]

I would start now. You never know if you are going to have problems or not. My husband and I started trying 6 months after we married. I was 33. I ended up having 2 miscarriages and from testing found out I had a congenital abnormality of my uterus and had to have surgery to correct it. Then after surgery we had to wait several months before trying again. I'm now 35 and almost 8 months pregnant, but it's been a long road!

[McZimmer]

I'm having a honeymoon baby. But we have been together, and living together for 4 years now, so for us, we don't feel like newly weds. And we are both so excited! We thought it's take years.  

[TMMB]

Start trying now. Chances are, it'll take some time to conceive, and then there's the whole 9 months if pregnancy will give you more time, as far as time with just you and him. Just my personal opinion... nothing professional about it, but you don't want to miss the window. A valid concern.

[TMMB]

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[LoveCake98]

Congratulations!  Agree with waiting at least 6 mos.& enjoying your partner.   I'd watch for crystal clear signs that he'll be a great dad--unless you're fully confident now. A wedding whoops is easier to fix than a baby whoops with the wrong person.  Sorry to be negative during your newlywedded bliss but sometimes people are really good at concealing secrets while dating such as alcoholism, gambling, or violence.  I know friends/family who went through all of those.  You should be able to tell within a year. Not sure how long u dated so this may not apply.

[MsLove01]

Congrats on your marriage!  I'm a fan of getting to know your spouse as your spouse first. Enjoy some time as a couple.  If your family usually hits menopause early consider that as well. Id talk to my doctor and get everything checked out to see if I'd have awhile.  Ultimately the decision is yours.  Good luck and enjoy the ride :)