Does anyone's MIL irritate them??

[YvetteY]

Mine drives me nuts.  Maybe it's because she's not my own and I'm less patient.  I try to avoid her, i know that may sound odd, but honestly the things that come out of her mouth.   She's so odd...she thinks I'm having this baby to please my husband and to please her and her husband.   WTH???   Honestly I love my husband, but I'm not having this baby because of him and certainly not having this baby to expand their family.   She's so weird.  She wrote of this letter, not sure what the point was (other than to irritate me) giving us advice about baby names.   To be honest I'm probably having this baby, of course because my DH wants one, but because I want one too.  My other babies are growing up...they don't need me...(you know what I mean)...one will be 19 this month and the other is 14.   They're both boys.  My DH is younger than me and has no children of his own and he put the idea in his head.  I started thinking of how much I love children and being a mom and when they were little.  Plus I thought it would be great to be able to have a daughter since I have all boys.   It just seems natural to want to have a child with a man your with, but I'm certainly not doing it to please anyone.    Oh well...I'm just venting.  I'm very upset with her...she's a control freak and pretty pushy.

I guess I'm annoyed with her because the other day I was very tired, sleeping and I told her i didn't want company.  She wanted to drop something off for five minutes.  I said no I'm sleeping and I don't feel well (I've been getting daily migraines with this pregnancy) and I didn't want ANYONE to come over.  I even told my 19 year that day to quit bothering me ( he kept coming in the bedroom waking me up).   Anyways she insisted and came over and I told her I wasn't coming downstair so she comes up to my bedroom.  Okay..she was dropping off a gift, but still it was something that could have waited.  

Am I just being an intolerant person??   Just venting..thanks for listening.

[adgal]

I love my mil, although she can drive me around the bend.  She means well though, and I know she would do anything for us, so I try to let it go.  Now, my sil, that is a whole different story!!  That women is as neurotic as they come and makes me insane!!

[YvetteY]

My MIL has no concept of the word boundries.  She still tries to tell everyone how to live and what to do.    

[LisaRG]

I really truly love my MIL.
She lives in England and I wish she lived next door.

[pookie1121]

I love my MIL.  She is really the perfect MIL - helpful but not overbearing and knows her boundaries...actually I think she is scared of me at times.  But she is only such a perfect MIL because she hated her MIL and she knows what it is like to hate a MIL and I think she cant stand the thought of me thinking of her that way.  

We are actually building a house right now - across the street from my parents in laws.  (my idea - my DH would have never suggested that!)  When our twins arrive I know my MIL will be very helpful and having them across the street is great for our kids.  My daughter will love it!

My DH and I have only been married almost 5 years now, but I hope the relationship stays so good.  I know so many who cant stand their MILs and feel like most of you.

[YvetteY]

LOL!!  Good to know I'm not a lone.....I put up with a lot of **** from my own mom for many years (she passed 2 yrs ago).  And it was easy to tell my mom to chill out, because she's my own mom....but it's harder to do with MIL.  Esp since DH says that I'm mean to his mom for avoiding her.  And I'm worried if I say something to her that she'll run to DH and we'll have a fight...but grrr...it's getting to a breaking point!  I'm worried that I will gunnysack everything and then the straw that breaks the camel's back will happen and I'll explode.  Oh well.  

[thetam01]

my mil can be horribly controlling too.. she calls me in the morning to ask if the kids r wearing there gloves and scarf and an extra shirt cuz it's cold etc.  but as my dh puts it u married the whole package and my dh has only 1 mom, so u have to find away to work it out because i'm afraid what goes around comes around.. ur children will see that u cut ur mil out and do the same with u when they get married..  so air on the side of caution with comma lol  good luck

[40smama]

Y - I totally relate - I love the woman but OMG, she drives me Fu@^%#ng crazy!

She kept after Wade and me to get shoes for Noah - we knew he didn't need any as he's not walking yet but she wouldn't let it go.  She finally asked me if she could take him to get the damne3d things & I let her thinking I would put them on her when he went over to her house.

Well, now it's come back to bite me because for some reason (I guess it's fate), I keep seeing her at different places & Noah doesn't have those shoes on so she gives me heck about it.  She love sto tell everyone how we wouldn't get him any shoes and he'll never learn to walk because he doesn't have support, blah, blah, blah.

I have more stories but I totally get where you're coming from - actually my mother pulled the same stunt your mil did today & woke No up from his nap - horrible woman - LOL! - jen

[blueeyedtabbycat]

I love my MIL to death but she drives me crazy! She is always giving advise no matter if you ask for it or not. She has to be negitive about just about everything pointing out all the things that can go wrong. If one of my kids coughs, she insits that I take them to the ER right away because it is more than likely something serious. If we are on the phone and my kids are fighting and im trying to deal with them she tells how I should handle it!! UGH!! If I tell one of my kids they are grounded or to go to their room she makes a stink saying maybe they are just tired and I should go cuddle with them. Same with fighting with DH, she thinks I should just tell him I love him and forget about being mad. I have had it with her latley. We are closing on our first home on thursday and for a woman that has NEVER owned her own home she is full of advise on what we should do and not do. Sorry so long, im just adding to the vent, lol. My MIL means well but man!! I do love her dont get me wrong she just doesnt know when to butt out:(

[dainsey]

In regards to my MIL, I don't feel an ounce of competition with her.  Some MIL's don't want to let their little boy grow up and god forbid they find someone else that they also love.  My husband is so tired of my MIL's meddling ways that we haven't see her in over 6 months.  I always tell myself that I will NEVER act the way my MIL does if I ever have a son.  Sometimes you CAN'T come to an understanding if the MIL refuses to treat the wife with some respect.  You will never understand how stressful it is unless you have a MIL who goes out of her way to cause trouble.

[SoCalTricia]

You know, I find it interesting that so many women hate their MILs. I mean, this is the woman that raised the man you love, right? So she must have *some redeeming qualities, I would think. She did SOMETHING right. I'm wondering if a lot of women feel competition with their MILs...competition for the husband's affection. And, of course, no woman is good enough for a mother's baby boy. It seems you could come to an understanding, though...you each have a special place in the man's heart, and neither of you can be replaced. I dunno...I guess as the mother of one boy (almost two boys), I really, really, hope that my DIL never feels this way about me!

[dainsey]

I'm with Kellym...I DETEST my MIL!  She's the biggest WITCH and if I could arrange never seeing her again I would.  She's controlling, manipulative and I can't stand her.  

[kellym]

I DETEST my MIL. She truly is one of a kind. I would have to classify her as well CLASSLESS!! White trash just no couthe kind of person.  It's funny because people want to know how my DH is related to such a classless person. He is educated and that's all I have to ever say. I just don't like her and thank goodness she lives out of state.

[Diabolicafemmia]

count me in....
Let me start by sayin...I'm not the emotionally needy type, and thank god, because I go it alone often because of my DH's job. His last 15mo deployment is when I did the in vitro, and we had several BFN's before we were blessed. The ONLY TIME I heard from her in that time is when she was aware I had an appt, or she wanted to know if I had heard from her son and how he was doing. After I miscarried, I heard NOTHING from her for several weeks once she was aware. Funny, because now that I am this far along and he is home (for now), NOTHING has changed. She will text me when she knows I had an appt and ask how the baby is doing.... guess the vessle has no place? She was also not shy about sharing her disappointment when we announced we were having a girl, as he is the youngest of 3 boys (he's also younger and has no kids...) and the other boys have 2 girls each.
I told her it wasnt our fault her boys could only make girls  :)

[SoCalTricia]

Actually, I ADORE my MIL. Sometimes my *own mother irritates me...lol. But - the MIL is very, very cool. It helps that she's actually my husband's step-mom (although she's been in his life since he was about 14), and she's only three years older than me (my sister's age). So, she really is more like a sister than a MIL. And, I knew my husband's parents for four years before I ever met him...they live next door and are close family friends. We have taken vacations together before I ever even met my husband! So, my in-laws seemed like family before I knew my husband!

I can sympathize with the meddling, though. My mom - bless her - is a wonderful woman and I love her so much. But, she's a recently retired psychologist and has nothing else to do with her mind all day but ponder other people's lives. LOL. It's quite annoying...but I ignore it because I know she means well. :-)

Tricia

[rdh1981]

Oh girl I can totally relate! I cannot stand my MIL!!!!! We have not even told her about our little man on the way. She will call everyday over and over until we answer and then she just shows up anytime she d@mn well pleases!!!!!!! My dh has talked to her about this  but she just looks at him like his crazy. Granted she does have some true medical issues, but she refuses to take her meds,  because of this she just becomes totally uncontrollable. The sad part is I do not even think she remembers Sweet Baby Cooper. That is part of the reason we have not told her about Cruz. I know this sounds so ugly, but until you live this daily torture you just cannot fully understand.  

I am glad to know that I am not alone in the Anti-MIL Club!!!!