Hi Ladies,
I am truly devestated and don't know what to do.
My 12 yr old dd told her counselor yesterday (this was her first meeting w/the counselor) that my cousin's fiancee, while he was drunk, tried to life up her shirt. SHe said this took place last year. She said she told my 17 yr old dd about it (who was 16 at the time), but my older dd said she thought her sister was lying. My 12 yr also said she told her other female cousin about it (this little girl is the dd of my cousin who's fiancee is accused of the terrible act). This little girl said the fiancee did the same thing to her when he drunk too.
This young man has been in out family for the past 3 1/2 yrs. I've never had a problem with him. I actually like him and feel like he is hte best thing for my cousin. I've seen where he's brought out the best in my cousin. He always took care of her children (ages 16, 10, and 8) like they were his owe children. He does drink alot, but he takes care of the bills, cooks, cleans and just an all around good guy. This is something I would've never thought he would do.
Now, my 12 yr lies to get attention and to get out of trouble. But with all the things my dd lied about, I just dont feel like she wouldlie about something like this. Her counselor had to report the fiancee to the the Dept. of Social Services in my hometown. They have also scheduled my dd to see a pyshciatrist who specializes in situations like this. They want to make sure she is not lying about this situation. I was told that I need to fiel a police report against my cousin's fiancee. He is on probation now for DUI and driving w/a suspended liscence. I was also told that if I don't file a police report, then I was be brought up on child neglect charges. This is extremely hard on me because my family is close. This could tear this family apart.
My dd's counselor said that after the investigation, they may find that nothing happen. But the family will already be destroyed. I'm at my wits end. I am procrastinating to file a police report. I know they will immediately arrest the fiancee. My cousin told me to do what I need to do to protect my child. And I am. But at the same time, I am hurt because I am close to this young man. He and my dh are close friends as well. I have not told my hubby about this situation. If I do, I know what he would do and it would land him in jail.
Do I have any options in this matter? What's going to happen from here on? How long is this process going to take? Do I need to hire a lawyer? I've told my dd that she has done nothing wrong. She said this has happen only one time. My cousin did talk her fiancee about it. He said he doesn't remember doing anything like that. I just dont know what to do. And to top it off, this same cousin's stepfather has been fighting her mother(my aunt). He was put out of this house and now is stocking my aunt. All of this is and will destroy our family. I'm trying not to stress myself since I'm 5 weeks pg. Should I tell my hubby? What should I do? I really need help