is it just me???. pls read

[nise28]

Okay ladies so i had my bby 9 wks ago..so after 6 week chk up dr said it was okay to resume my sex life. ofc hubby got all happy. but idk why but for some reason my sex appetite has really gone down. im not that wild girl i was before lol (tmi) but ever since i gave birth i felt like in some way traumatised. i mean im guessing i just think back on when the nurses would come every hr to stick their hand in me. or when the dr came in n just broke my water. i just feel that i was too touched idk if u ladies understand.i mean i do have sex w my hubby but its like please be gentle and dont hurt me... then all of a sudden when were done having sex i feel the urge to hurry and get dressed bc i feel embarrased. i also feel like crying. i really enjoy the sex but i get this sad feeling. dont.know whats wrong. have you ladies gone thru this or am i the only crazy 1 here... lol..

[havincinco]

Only 9 weeks out is totally normal. A guy friend once said, "6 weeks is fine (for the dry spell after), because it takes that long to get over the trauma of what you just saw!"  It is an adjustment in all ways and you just spent the last few months feeling all clinical and exposed between appts, the birth, and post birth. Plus I feel super self concious about the pancake belly thing that lasts for a while.  Its just gross.
you will get your drive back and feel sexy and not so uncomfortable about it soon, once you get a little separation from the "apartment your baby just lived in for 9 months" and YOUR body. Its impotant to stay on the horse and work past it though, even when it feels routine. Think of it this way, hubbie had a completely different view of what went on (I assume) and he's still hot for you!

[thirdtimemum]

I kinda know what you mean.....when we resumed having sex again i really felt like i couldn't get into it, it was like my mind kept thinking 'i just had a baby out of there', and i was a bit paranoid too thinking my partner wasn't looking at me the same way either. But, its been 4 months now and i finally feel normal again about sex, thank god! I found it really hard to get sexy in the beginning too, but if it continues and starts to be a problem definately go and speak to a counsellor.

[Flickan]

You may want to talk to a counselor about it. They can help you process the feelings and understand where there is a hang up. I have a feeling its actually a common issue. Good luck.