Pregnant at 43, need advice on some symptoms

[Zoe2B]

Hi all. I'm almost 5 weeks pregnant (my first time) and am 43. Here's a little history.... I was told that I would never be able to have my own baby after getting back really high FSH levels. This doc said IVF with an egg donor would be my only option. Saw another specialist who was more hopeful, but still was told the odds of using my own eggs were against me because of my age. I started acupunture and herb supplemtents, positive affirmation CDs, and tried relaxing! 4 months later, I became pregnant. We are so happy! But it's scary too because on my first trip to the OBGYN all he did was tell me all the risks and the terrible things that can happen, with nothing positive to balance that info out. I've beaten the odds so far, and I have to remember that!

I have a couple things going on that I'm wondering if others have experienced. Night sweats started a couple nights ago - it's not terrible, but it's noticable. I also started feeling this sort twinge in my lower abdomen, on the left side, just above and to the left of the pubic area. Someone else described it as a "stitch", like you used to get in gym class. Good description!  It's not super painful or anything, but it's new, so I am curious about it. It comes and goes. The other question is about breast tenderness. Mine were REALLY sore after conception for about 2 weeks straight, and seem to be less sore now. So of course I'm worried because I want as many standard symptoms as I can get so I can feel like this pregnancy is going to be successful! I would have thought that my breasts would become MORE sore as time goes on, and not less sore.
Any input would be so appreciated!!!
Thanks.

[Zoe2B]

Thanks SO much for your posts and support. You are all very special women, and I am so glad to have found you. :o)

[hot stuff]

I'm 40 and my tubes clamped 14 years ago, start my last period early and only went 2 and half days my breats are really sore and I have had some nausea not a lot what are the chances of being pregant? I'm scared to test?

[pcarsey]

You should probably test, I'm not sure what the chances are. Maybe the clamps gave way and you are pregnant. You could also just have something else going on. Maybe pre- menopausal symptoms. You aren't too young for that you know. My friend is 26 and went through it 2 years ago. It started out with her being late and nausea was strong. The next month no period at all. Now she has nothing.. no periods, no more hot flashes, no more anything. So.. test.. if it comes back negative then go see a doctor. I don't want to scare you or anything. Just telling you it is possible.

[CuriousGeorg]

Hi Wendy.  Congratulations.  I too went into the DR's office and was met with nothing but horror stories and terrible statistics.  I went in to discuss getting pregnant (I am 38).  I could barely make it out of there before I burst out in tears.  I am seeing a new DR next week for a "preconception consultation".  A fancy way of saying that I need some questions answered.  This new DR is a male (the first a female).  Don't think just because a DR is female that they have a more nurturing bed side manner--- mine didn't.  Hopefully, I will hear some upbeat statistics this time.  Good luck to you.

[Zoe2B]

Thanks for your post. Interesting (and disappointing!) that a woman was your first DR. Good to know, so I don't have any expectations. I guess the goal here is to find a DR who is compassionate and positive to balance out the daunting stats we are faced with. I have an appt with a new one as well, but she wouldn't see me until my 8-10th week. Good for you in doing the "preconception consultation". I never heard of anyone doing that. I hope you find a more positive DR too, because this is so emotional for us as it is! Now that you have your prenatals, relax, and start trying! ;o) Take your time with the OBGYN, so you can find one you like. I'm going to do the same. I have my fertility specialist who is monitoring me for the first 10-12 weeks (even though we surprisingly got pregnant on our own!), so I have some time too.

[azqtpies]

Wendy,

Congratulations!..... Sorry to hear your dr was so insensitive. MANY women actually a large amount are having or starting families after the age of 35!!!!!!!!!!! so this is no longer a strange occurance. This has become soooo very common. Though I will say it is much more worrisome with all the testing that they do. I am 38 and 8wk pregnant, with my 4th my other kids are 8ds 19dd 22ds. My dh has no children of his own, so I went vthrough a tubal reversal this past june so we could have one baby together. I was afraid of a tubal pregnancy at first , thankfully a U/S confirmed the baby is in utero and last week we got to see our lil peanut heartbeat! That was tooo cool!. You might be able to see your at your next U/S too. I would as well find another dr (obgyn) what a a##, what nerve they have. My breast were really tingly the first few weeks, and very full feeling, I know longer have the tingly and the fullness is there more so at night, and they are sore on and off. I have read that the symptoms will flucuate. So I would not worry, I too get the twinge pinch pulling lil pains, doc always says its just the uterus growing, as long as you have no bleeding you are fine. We go on Oct 16th for our NT testing, nervous but hope we get good news and find out what the sex is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well good luck to you, know there is alot of here in your same shoes, so post here with any questions or comments. There is always a great person here that will answer you.. and welcome to the oldies....lol

Kelly